Pein Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 I was together with my girlfriend for 3 months but out of the blue she broke up with me. According to her she realized in the 8 days I was gone to visit my parents in another country that she does not have that love feeling anymore. When I got back she was a bit more distant and on the last day before holidays we talked about this as I wanted to find out what was wrong. She ended up telling me that she does not have that feeling for me that she once had but still really cares for me. On numerous occasions she told me that I don't deserve this as I am an amazing person and she wishes that she could love me. She wants to really stay in contact as I mean a lot to her but now she has gone to the US for the holidays. The plan was that I would visit her in the US, and I was looking forward to this so much. Now after breaking up we have talked numerous times on messages and called her once to try and see if she had changed her mind but she hasn't. Almost a week has passed so I am hoping that she will still regret it and ask us to give it another try. Now I was thinking that I would go surprise her in the US in about 6 weeks with limited contact until then and take her out and try and see if she gets that spark back that she eventually fell for. She is really an amazing person and that is why I don't want to give up now. I just dont know what my chances are when she said that she doesnt feel the love anymore but says that Im an amazing person and wishes she could love me? So I have two options. NC/Min contact for the next 6 weeks and i surprise her in the US and take her out for dinner (I will be in the US anyways so I thought this might be worth it) Second option would be to wait just over 2 months till we are back in college to slowly make a move. The reason why I really want to surprise her is that she does not lose all her feeling completely if I go NC for over 2 months. Keep in mind we were together 3 months. Over there I could also do different things with her as in college I was often stuck working till pretty late. She says there is nothing that I did wrong but maybe doing stuff at a different location could be good for us? Some may argue that perhaps she has a bf now, but I know she wont have one as she would not move on so quick and she would never get into a long distance thing so quick. She still write to me every few days to see how I am. So which of the two options should I choose? I really want her back. Shes my dream woman
blotter Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Three months is such a short period of time in the dating world. If there is this much turmoil and b.s. this soon I dare say this was never going to work to begin with. 3 months and she has fallen out of "love", 3 months is hardly enough time to get to know someone, much less fall in love and then fall out of love.
Author Pein Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 Three months is such a short period of time in the dating world. If there is this much turmoil and b.s. this soon I dare say this was never going to work to begin with. 3 months and she has fallen out of "love", 3 months is hardly enough time to get to know someone, much less fall in love and then fall out of love. She did mention she had some problems in the family at one stage. She was supposed to study at college during summer and organized everything for it but then changed her mind. This might have affected her decision but she claims it didnt influence anything. Whats your view on this? Fact is that we were really happy at one stage and then she lost the feeling. I just want to try it once more with her as she has meant the world to me. If then it doesnt work or she doesnt want it then I wont be able to do anything but I at least want to try
theonlyjuan Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Similar situation to mine. You either feel it or you don't. You can't make someone fall in love with you. Timing is important and you might of come in her life at the wrong time for her. My ex said she wishes she could feel it for me, but just doesn't. If you want to live in hope, concentrate on improving yourself. She might one day realize her feelings or you might meet someone else. I don't think anyone can explain why they do/don't love someone.
Author Pein Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 Similar situation to mine. You either feel it or you don't. You can't make someone fall in love with you. Timing is important and you might of come in her life at the wrong time for her. My ex said she wishes she could feel it for me, but just doesn't. If you want to live in hope, concentrate on improving yourself. She might one day realize her feelings or you might meet someone else. I don't think anyone can explain why they do/don't love someone. Yep. Timing is vital to success Which option would you advise on taking ?
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