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It will be three weeks to the day tomorrow, that my "boyfriend" stopped replying to my texts - his way of breaking up with me.

 

Two weeks ago, a mate of his got in touch with me and said that I should meet him in a bar for a few drinks. He ended up staying the night because I kept on crying over my ex (cringe) but two days after I seen him again in the same bar. He didn't stay though. Thursday of this week I stayed at his, and friday he dropped me off at home. Then picked me up again later on and we went back to his and done the deed.

 

Now my question which I can't answer myself, is am I rebounding? Or is this me moving on? It seems too soon for me to move on but I keep on wondering why I should be bothered about what my ex would think. Just because you've been dumped it doesn't mean you should sit around and cry all the time. Life goes on.

 

So what do you think? The only thing I feel towards my ex is anger. Anger at the way he has been so cold towards me. But with I'm with this new guy, he makes everything in the world disappear. He makes me laugh until I cry and he tells me that I make him happy but he knows that I'm not emotionally ready for a relationship

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Is this "A" from this fling, or yet another one?

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Is this "A" from this fling, or yet another one?

 

it was never a fling. he fancied me not the other way around.

and no it isn't

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What's happened to 'A' then?

 

Look, my point is that you don't seem to be very settled or confident in yourself.

 

You lied to your ex - You broke his trust by texting him pretending to be someone else.

You then also had a fling with another guy, a friend of his.

Now, barely three weeks down the road, you're hooking up with yet ANOTHER friend of his.

 

What are you doing?!

 

Working your way through his social circle to get his attention?

 

Stop.

 

You really need to examine your motives and methods and come up with something healthier, because this is warped.

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What's happened to 'A' then?

 

Look, my point is that you don't seem to be very settled or confident in yourself.

 

You lied to your ex - You broke his trust by texting him pretending to be someone else.

You then also had a fling with another guy, a friend of his.

Now, barely three weeks down the road, you're hooking up with yet ANOTHER friend of his.

 

What are you doing?!

 

Working your way through his social circle to get his attention?

 

Stop.

 

You really need to examine your motives and methods and come up with something healthier, because this is warped.

 

Why on earth do you keep calling it a fling? It was NEVER fling. His friend liked me, I didn't return any feeling of that. And I hugged him once. If that's your idea of a fling then good one.

I'm not hanging out with his mate to get his attention, I couldn't care less about him anymore if I'm quite honest. It's not about getting his attention or making him jealous or whatever.

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Then why, or how come, you're limiting your liaisons with people he knows?

 

Why are you falling into situations which ultimately will damage your reputation?

 

That's two guys - in his circle - you've been linked with.

Guys - friends - talk you know.

And not always in a good way....

 

And I think perhaps, 3 weeks is too soon.

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Then why, or how come, you're limiting your liaisons with people he knows?

 

Why are you falling into situations which ultimately will damage your reputation?

 

That's two guys - in his circle - you've been linked with.

Guys - friends - talk you know.

And not always in a good way....

 

And I think perhaps, 3 weeks is too soon.

 

I don't mean to do that, A and this knew guy I was previously friends with while going out with my ex. A started to like me and I at no point lead him on so I can't be blamed for that. And this new guy isn't as close as him and A were. The new guy hasn't seen my ex since last year. They really aren't that close, not that I'm trying to justify it I'm just saying.

 

I don't see how it would damage my reputation, I wouldn't care if my ex and one of my friends got together, it happens.

 

Yeah I thought it was too soon as well but there is another guy who said he was interested in me and who knows my ex so if I wanted to rebound, wouldn't I just do it with him? Or the next thing I see in a bar?

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I don't see how it would damage my reputation, I wouldn't care if my ex and one of my friends got together, it happens.

Double standards exist.

Guys have a reputation of "go get em bud! Do your thing!" Girls have the reputation of sluttish sleeping around and generally being a prick-bag for all and sundry.

 

While a guy may get a pat on the back, you wouldn't.

 

It sucks, but it's true.

 

 

 

Yeah I thought it was too soon as well but there is another guy who said he was interested in me and who knows my ex so if I wanted to rebound, wouldn't I just do it with him? Or the next thing I see in a bar?

 

do you actually NEED to date, right now?

Why not stay single for a while?

Seriously.

There are flaws in your thinking, which concern me.

 

Texting a guy as someone else, to test him.... trust issues and confidence.... evaluate your own self worth.

 

can you look in a mirror at your reflection, tell yourself, sincerely, that you're wonderful - and know deep in your heart of hearts, it's absolutely damn true?

 

well, can you?

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