bluegreen Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 What made you say that and come to that realization ? Me fact that he is doing it again new girl-s same play sweet kind charming boy Same behavior and patterns in communications he had with me I bet same kind of talks and b ...s same facade that will last only until his drinking emotional immaturity chain smoking running around and rages come to light. Once things hit the fan with me all I tried was to hang on to that time before it but of course it was exercise in stupid this was real him and who he was before that was a just borrowed character. It just makes me sick to think how he will abuse and crow about my few try's to have a closure with him and some parts of our relationship like intimacy with his slimy friends. Yeah he did that to with few of his ex's what the hell was I thinking as soon as I saw how he treated them I should have run. But just like any silly girl I was to busy loving how well he treated me differently and how changed he was with me. Conclusion : Best prediction of future behavior in man is his past behavior and I should have contacted some of those girls if I did this post would not be here. Well that was me now you go
scorpio1978 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 The day my ex walked by me and acted like I didn't exist pretty much did it for me. Until that day, I pined for him, felt weak when I saw his car or something that made me think of him. I did nothing wrong to him. I was a sweetheart and doted on him. When he literally walked feet away and didn't even look at me, I knew it was done. He wasn't coming back and I didn't care anymore. I was a stranger to him is how he acted and the man I thought I knew never would have done that and been so cold. The man I knew ceased to exist as well 2
Author bluegreen Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 That's exactly how i felt except I wondered where was that Huge Love he kept professing and even at our end he said he still did not get over me at all. Now he is as you say someone I used to know stranger cold uncaring indifferent already doing new experiences in mere weeks since break up how did they go from one extreme to another just like that. I was not perfect but I really did love him and care for him seeing him like that just evaporated that feeling tears and sorrow I felt because of NC between us.
lop98 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Not long ago. I met up with the guy I'm dating for lunch, and when we were going on separate directions in a busy street, he pulled me closer and hugged me like I've never been hugged, he said everything just with that hug... I felt healthy, happy, like he just snapped his fingers and removed all the junk that had been weighting on me for months, I wanted it to last forever... I never felt anything remotely close to that with my ex, he actually had a way of being absolutely romantic while simultaneously making me feel absolutely worthless. Definitely not love, but the obsession's still hard to overcome, and I still have feelings for him that I need to work on... meaning that realizing it wasn't love is not enough, because he still triggers components of that feeling that confuse me at best. 2
Author bluegreen Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 Yes am sure someone new will erase whatever trace of them was left in us. Its just amazing once your eye open up and you realize this how clear you see every thing you should have seen before but refused to. Am just not sure should we keep this as lesson learned thing or dig it in hole of shame place and never ever look back
Ale khun Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 For me that day was not long ago when I saw him for the vary last time , at the beginning having a FWB thing with him was better than not having him at all in my life huge mistake , for a long time i tried to play cool and with a cold heart that was another mistake . The last night I spend with him he treated me like s•••t . I felt like he was going to pay me , that night I felt like a whore and I hated myself for that , that night I told myself this s•••t is over I don't deserve this I'm not his toy . It was a big rude wake up call for me . He was distant cold a complete jerk I felt humiliated and used . i don't hate him at all the fact that he didn't love me and he didn't want what I wanted a serious RL doesn't make me angry anymore the pain sadness and bitterness had showed me that the "love" he gave me its not what I want .( he constantly said to me I love you ) I want someone who doesn't have any doubts about me who can love me unconditional and someone who wants to share more than a bed with me . At the end I'm glad he dumped me because I've learnt to love me and respect me , I didn't love me while i was with him because I allowed his behavior and I'm responsible for that . Now I won't allow any jerk in my life I have to be selective and not fall for some pretty face and sweet words . For me that was the day . 1
Author bluegreen Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 Good for you girl and you are right he might have had pretty face but was he chaning tatum or orlando bloom ? Please good riddance I say and some of them are such scum that no matter how much you respect yourself it will not fix the wreck that they are.
Ale khun Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Good for you girl and you are right he might have had pretty face but was he chaning tatum or orlando bloom ? Please good riddance I say and some of them are such scum that no matter how much you respect yourself it will not fix the wreck that they are. Nop he is not !!! And I'm not talking with an open wound , (he is not that cute)
Author bluegreen Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 Nop he is not !!! And I'm not talking with an open wound , (he is not that cute) This gave me another laugh again
SimonSerenade Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 I realised my love for her faded when I first set my eyes on recent ex, now I'm hoping one day it happens again.
Author bluegreen Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 I have no doubt that it will Simon it takes just that one action word or scene and .... 1
SimonSerenade Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Thankyou it's hard to see right now but it was hard to see back then too, Despite everything my goals are still the same as they always where, settle down, get married and live a long and happy life with someone wonderful beside me, she missed out but her loss is someone else's gain, just hoping the next one appreciates me
Author bluegreen Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 : ))) Oh I know just until last week I was here moaning and bawling about someone it does take a time for fog in front of our eyes to clear why well because we want to keep it that way. I knew he had more flaws then dog fleas but I loved those rare and precious times when all was pink clouds chocolates and champagne so I hanged on even when it should have been over. And then one moment one clear look at the things and him and cooling came on love became past infatuation he someone I used to know believe me all you need is just that one of clarity moment ...
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