Worried that her "question" email is bad. Others disagree with me though. Good or bad

[Gambler1984]

I'll keep this simple, we dated for almost 2 years, she moved away for grad school 1.5 years ago, terminating the relationship for that reason and then had someone new right away. Idk if it was a rebound or what, she is known for that. We stayed in touch until she had him and then I stopped talking to her because I was hurt. She would still like/comment on my FB wall, but I unsubscribed from hers and haven't looked at it or liked/commented on anything since!

 

It sound like they had broken up twice in a 7 month period and then she began to bother me a lot more, usually via FB, but also received pics of her cat on 2 different occasions, random misc texts aka conversation starters. Out of all of my FB friends, she would like/comment on my posts way more than anyone else. People were telling me she still probably liked me and realized the grass wasn't greener on the otherside and that I should tell her how I felt about her and not ignore/play the hard to get game. Well, 7 months later, she was back with that same guy from school again.

 

Now I know she is not here, but Idk what her intentions were with me. After I saw her back with that guy, I disabled my FB account and haven't been back since Thanksgiving time. People advised me to write her a letter, so I did. I sent it write before Christmas and it was a detailed, deep and emotional letter. I told her I had hope for a future between us like when she returns, etc. I explained why I wrote and how I felt about her. I told her that I was very proud of her for getting into a PHD program ,etc.

 

I never have opened the email account that I sent it from since. Last Saturday I accessed my AOL account which I rarely check and there was an email from her in it and it was sent that morning too. Very bizarre I know! The subject like was "Question". I didn't open it and haven't yet because I'm nervous about rejection obviously.

 

My gut initially said its good she has a question and is trying to communicate and sending it to my AOL must mean she probably tried the account I sent the letter from, but since I haven't opened it, she's trying other ways.

 

Women are telling me I don't have anything to worry about and its likely a good thing in my favor to open it. I've been told if it was bad, she likely wouldn't try other email accounts or write me at all.

 

Basically, she was begging for my attention for many months, I was ignoring her on purpose and then school guy came back.

[Appleness]

You had 208 people look at this post already so I'm just going to say what they're all thinking:

 

"Just open it already!"

 

You have nothing to lose. By NOT opening it, you're being inactive and that gets you nowhere. Open it and read. If she wants to be with you, then decide if you want that too and ACT. If she rejects you, then man up and move on but at least you're not stuck in this limbo reading about her and this other guy. Work on yourself and find someone better suited for you. Right now, you're nursing this wound and you won't let it heal.

[TaraMaiden]

Nope.

Delete it, dump it and move on.

 

If it wasn't important then, it's not important now.

leave it be, stay on 'Ignore', No Contact and let sleeping dogs lie.

 

They have a habit of biting you in the azz if you poke 'em....

[FierceFoxie]

Open it already! Otherwise curiousity is gonna kill you over what she says and torture yourself with "what ifs". It could very well be closure, an apology or a request for meeting up.

[mammasita]

Wait, why are you still using aol?

 

 

I say read the email.

[Gambler1984]

Ha, I don't use aol anymore, but still have the account. The only time I ever open it is to clean out the junk mail on occasion. The only reason I happened to find her email was I had to open to click on a password reset and happened to see it was sent that very morning. Not sure why she sent it to my aol, most seem to think she probably sent something to the account I sent the letter from, but since I haven't opened that account since I sent it, she tried another email address.

 

Would she send a closure email 4-5 months later and titled is "question"? I mean, after all she was the one doing all of the attention seeking before, not me.

[TaraMaiden]

...And is still seeking attention by enigmatically labelling an email, "Question".

 

So you'll open it to see what the question is.

 

I still say delete, empty bin.

 

But it's up to you I guess.....

it depends how far you're prepared to be set back.