Anela Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 It's always nice to see a woman face rejection. When they're 19 they like to talk about how men shouldn't take rejection personally and just keep going. Until they experience it for themselves. I see you're handling it very well OP, what with the rant and all. I've experienced it my whole life. You have to get to a point where you don't take it personally - I felt better, obviously, when I didn't. 1
Anela Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 I think you should accept that dating gets harder for women in your age bracket and to not even CONSIDER dating men who are 50 or under. To them, you'll be a younger woman. Why should she accept anything of the sort? I don't feel attracted to men over a certain age, they're in an entirely different place to me. Being favourited by a 60+ man on a dating site, was so depressing. I was 36, he was almost thirty years older. 1
crude Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Women in their 40's certainly don't need to settle for old men when that's not what they want. They can always go in the other direction with a much younger man. However, that means they might have to adjust their attitude from wanting a Prince Charming to marry them to having some fun and sex with a young guy. Those women who one of the previous posters said felt they wasted the last 15 years of their life should definitely look into that option.
Eggplant Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 It's always nice to see a woman face rejection. When they're 19 they like to talk about how men shouldn't take rejection personally and just keep going. Until they experience it for themselves. I see you're handling it very well OP, what with the rant and all. The OP is not the 19-year-old who rejected you. I'm sure you want revenge on all women now and enjoy seeing them suffer.
Eggplant Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Yes, that must be it. I just really like the contrast between what women tell men after they lament their 90th rejection that year: "man up, stop complaining, don't take it personally" and the absolute thermonuclear meltdown most women experience when they themselves get rejected ( he must be gay, impotent, have a small penis or be some kind of sex offender ). All people of both genders hate being rejected. Stop treating women as though all 3 billion of them are the same person. Not all women are saying to you "man up" about rejection. 1
FitChick Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 I personally think that for any given age, both men or women can find that their genes have either been kind or unkind to them, especially when it comes to something as readily observable as skin tone, hair condition and the like. I don't know what the secret is to looking good for your age as opposed to looking tired and shabby for your age. I know what the secret is. You have to make the effort! You can overcome your genes since health and appearance are influenced more by lifestyle. If you are overweight and flabby, eat less and exercise. Have a current hairstyle and wear clothes that are in style. Have your teeth whitened, and make sure they and your gums are still on speaking terms. Bad gums and teeth = bad breath. Trim the hair in your ears and nose and nether regions. I had a pedicure yesterday and there were quite a few men having pedicures. The salon owner said, "Tomorrow is Father's Day. Their wives have bought them pedicures as gifts." Clever wives! It's much easier for men to update their look since styles last for year for them. Most people are too lazy. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Most are. You can't even really blame them, most women go through their first decade or two of relationship years not facing any rejection so they really don't have any notion of what it's like. Please don't generalize. I was rejected more 19-25 than I am now. I was heavier, shyer and had no clue how to dress. Youth is not everything. 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Serious question, does this include the whole "I gave him 3.7 hints and he didn't ask me out" so that's a rejection thing many women do? Because that's not the same rejection as asking someone out and having them actively shoot you down. Everyone generalizes, mostly when it's generally true. No man asked me out. I had few big crushes and one told me that I am not his type, the other two F-zoned me. I dressed like a boy and in loose clothes, I wore no make up, my hair looked like sh it and I was chubby. If I uploaded pics, you would have agreed that I look better now.
Eggplant Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 So, that's three rejections between 19-25. Good job proving my point, most guys that age face 3 rejections a week. Suppose, for the sake of argument, that the OP has faced far fewer rejections than you or most men. Do you think, out of jealousy, that she deserves no helpful words of advice? Do you think expressing happiness about her lack of success is the most helpful thing you can do here?
It's Just Me Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 I fully agree with meeting quickly. In fact, if I exchange emails with a guy for more than a week and he hasn't asked to meet, I'll stop responding and move on. BINGO! That's the way to do it. 1
pcplod Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 So, that's three rejections between 19-25. Good job proving my point, most guys that age face 3 rejections a week. Jeezus, Jonas! You are a walking disaster-zone. A danger to yourself. One of those thankfully rare creatures who relishes giving himself a kicking when he's down. Lighten up and look at the sky occasionally, for gawd's sake! I'm not saying that your grievances don't have any validity, but I am pretty sure there are no solutions wherever you're taking yourself. Effectively telling any/all woman that they are all unfair, mean, picky, advantaged bitches at every opportunity you get is a sure-fire way of not getting yourself 'friend-zoned' but more like being in a competition to see who can get the highest number of axes buried in their head/back. Your attitude is what is commonly called a "self-fulfilling prophesy". And you come over as a profound misogynist, which could be ironic as part of the discussion here has touched on women making misandrist comments in their OLD profiles, which is frankly probably the eight wonder of the world to behold for it's stupidity. Try and give yourself at least a fighting chance, for goodness sake, and when you find yourself in a hole not of your making or liking, stop digging for goodness sake! 4
Eggplant Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Dating is a numbers game. You're going to have to develop a thick skin. Don't consider a man who isn't intrigued by you. If he's not smitten with you, NOTHING else he has does you any good, got it? Do not go browsing men's profiles who haven't messaged you. Do not get invested in men who aren't invested in you. Next, next, next, next. Big game of "next" until you find the one who is interested.
Eggplant Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 And you come over as a profound misogynistWell, maybe that's an extreme word...
ChessPieceFace Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 So, that's three rejections between 19-25. Good job proving my point, most guys that age face 3 rejections a week. As a fellow bitter man, let me chime in with this. The ones who called you out for being bitter have a point. Regardless of how many women in this thread, on this forum, and out there in the world deserve to be taken down a few notches, in the end you're still hurting yourself by keeping to the mindset you're in. I think I've done it too... but when you come onto a thread just to say "Haha! In your face, woman!", I think it's time to reassess, for your own sake. MHO. Think of it this way -- there are bitter women out there (and on here) who keep themselves damaged by holding the crimes of douchebags against all men. Don't be the same way. 5
pcplod Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Well, maybe that's an extreme word... I am not accusing Jonas of being a misogynist, but of appearing to be a misogynist. Unfortunately, the end result can be the same. You will be treated as being a misogynist either way, which for Jonas and any men like him is surely the most unfortunate thing to do to themselves? Surely if life is proving difficult in some way for you, the last thing you want to do is to make it even more difficult for yourself? Well, at least that is the personal philosophy I go with and it works, although life, inevitably, is still a struggle. 'Twas always thus. 1
irc333 Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Well, you have to admit....ONLINE dating just makes people overly picky and so on...I suppose because they have to? I bet if a woman online, that she had rejected or just didn't reply to....had met this SAME man in person....like at a public park, college class, etc....she would probably go out with him. I've seen people admit to how they've met some woman at a street community party...recognized her from POF and approached her as if he never seen her before in his life. He easily scored a date with her because the face to face, more personal interaction with body language and tones won it all over.
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