Imajerk17 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Someone (say a girl you would like to be closer to) says yesterday over text that they had a rough day. You text her today and ask how their day is going. She says a little better and asks about you. What would be the proper response? On the one hand, you suspect that "a little better" is polite for "not better but I don't want to complain". On the other hand, you don't want to pry. Hell she could be bummed out over another guy! Any recommended responses to this?
Star Gazer Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 "A drink always makes me feel better. Want to grab one?" 6
carhill Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 She says a little better and asks about you. What would be the proper response? If it was at this moment, I'd likely mention I was just brazing up a hydraulic casting and am cooling off (true) and that I'd call her later. Then I would.
Phantom888 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 "hey baby, wanna f*ck?" No seriously, your texts are so casual it doesn't really matter what the response is. It's almost like, "how is the weather?"
Star Gazer Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 SG has it right!!! I should date women. I know how to woo them, make them feel special, truly appreciate them, meet their needs, blah blah blah. It's the dudes I struggle with. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I should date women. I know how to woo them, make them feel special, truly appreciate them, meet their needs, blah blah blah. It's the dudes I struggle with. I think there was a thread recently on dating the same gender for that very reason!
GI_Joy Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 "A drink always makes me feel better. Want to grab one?" dang. wish I were as smooth as you!
carhill Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Once a woman (or any person) has earned the privilege of that kind of care, sure. Plenty of experience has taught that there's a world full of folks looking for a receptacle. I now gauge their intent by their interest in myself rather than banal lubrication of 'how was your day?', hence the response. Their needs are situational and past performance is no guarantee of future results. OTOH, if a lady contacts me and is excited about her great day and wants to share that and is genuinely curious and excited about mine, then drinks are on me. Foul weather friend days are in my past.
daisybuchanan55 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Once a woman (or any person) has earned the privilege of that kind of care, sure. Plenty of experience has taught that there's a world full of folks looking for a receptacle. I now gauge their intent by their interest in myself rather than banal lubrication of 'how was your day?', hence the response. Their needs are situational and past performance is no guarantee of future results. OTOH, if a lady contacts me and is excited about her great day and wants to share that and is genuinely curious and excited about mine, then drinks are on me. Foul weather friend days are in my past. True, but if the person has given you no reason to suspect they are a fair-weather friend, I would be more than happy to suggest drinks. It's important to try to remain positive and glass-half-full even when you've been burned. A sunny outlook on life is attractive in either gender. If a guy suggested I was just looking for a person to vent to (unless I'd given him a reason to think like that) I would take a giant step back and be pretty turned off that he was so suspicious. 1
daisybuchanan55 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Oh, and if I had a penny for every person who told me it's too bad I'm not a lesbian...well, I'd have a LOT of pennies!!! SG, you and I are in the same boat!!! 1
carhill Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 True, but if the person has given you no reason to suspect they are a fair-weather friend, I would be more than happy to suggest drinks. It's important to try to remain positive and glass-half-full even when you've been burned. A sunny outlook on life is attractive in either gender. If a guy suggested I was just looking for a person to vent to (unless I'd given him a reason to think like that) I would take a giant step back and be pretty turned off that he was so suspicious. I'm a realist. I've seen thousands of examples of what I share over my 50+ years on the planet. I was a glass-half-full person, caring of others, for decades. Now I'm just more selective about who that is shared with. Personally, I don't and haven't seen any women stepping up to give a good god damn about my life, save for the wives of a few friends, so turnabout is fair play. That's how it is. If that's a turn off to you, so be it.
Star Gazer Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I'm a realist. I've seen thousands of examples of what I share over my 50+ years on the planet. I was a glass-half-full person, caring of others, for decades. Now I'm just more selective about who that is shared with. Personally, I don't and haven't seen any women stepping up to give a good god damn about my life, save for the wives of a few friends, so turnabout is fair play. That's how it is. If that's a turn off to you, so be it. This thread isn't about you and your fair weather friends, it's about Imajerk and how he should respond to someone *he is* interested in getting to know better.
Star Gazer Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 It's important to try to remain positive and glass-half-full even when you've been burned. A sunny outlook on life is attractive in either gender. If a guy suggested I was just looking for a person to vent to (unless I'd given him a reason to think like that) I would take a giant step back and be pretty turned off that he was so suspicious. Totally agree!
daisybuchanan55 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I'm a realist. I've seen thousands of examples of what I share over my 50+ years on the planet. I was a glass-half-full person, caring of others, for decades. Now I'm just more selective about who that is shared with. Personally, I don't and haven't seen any women stepping up to give a good god damn about my life, save for the wives of a few friends, so turnabout is fair play. That's how it is. If that's a turn off to you, so be it. I totally understand where you're coming from. Selective sharing is important. My question is, do you hope to find love at some point in the next 50 years? Just wondering, or have you decided you're "done" with that aspect of life? No judgement, just a question. I will say though my grandmother found an awesome new husband at age 80 after being cheated on for her entire marriage--the one man she'd ever slept with! The second husband died a few years after they got married but I was happy she was able to experience love for a second time in her life, even if it was for a short time. Her outlook on life and belief that you can still have a "happy ending" even after being burned for 40+ years was very inspiring to me.
carhill Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 My question is, do you hope to find love at some point in the next 50 years? Just wondering, or have you decided you're "done" with that aspect of life? No judgement, just a question. Possible, but not with a woman who texts me to complain about her foul day, hypothetically.
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