Country_Girl Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I could really use some advice, or "one liners" as next weekend I'm going camping with a group of friends, and a guy I went on 1 failed date with last year will be there. This guy is a jerk and I really wouldn't put it past him to insult me. I'm 31 he's 28. Background is this guy is my friend's husband's friend. We ran into him a couple times last summer (maybe twice) and him being maybe 5 months out of a long term relationship, was asking my friend about me. I asked her to arrange a group date and we all went to a concert together, afterward to my friend's place. I had arrangements to crash at my friend's place, as I live 45 minutes from her place and where the venue it. The date did not, but they told him he should crash there since he had been drinking a bit. Everything was great at this point, we had kissed, then the **** hit the fan when my friend and her husband went to bed. Just a total 180 of character, I had met this guy in a mutual setting probably a total of 6 times over the last 2 years - he always seemed charming and nice. Anyway they went to bed, he started making out with me and he wanted to escalate things. I told him I wasn't going to sleep with him, we were on my friend's couch for Christ's sake, I'm not some horney little teenager...I didn't vocalise that, I just said I'd like to get to know him better and go on 'dates' before bringing it to that level. Well, everything turned to **** after that. He told me I was a prude, laughed at me, insinuated I was childish because "We're adults, he hasn't had a girl turn him down since high school, that if you want to sleep with someone you simply do it - that I'm being juvenile". He pretty much berated me for 2 hours, his comments really didn't bother me too much, it was the laughing that drove me nuts, but I didn't react to it. At one point, he told me he could just make me sleep with him when he had me pinned. I mean, who the **** says that? Anyway, I'm not afraid of him, and there will be a group of us camping next weekend - so I won't have to worry about being left alone with him. I'm more worried about insults from him. I wouldn't put it past him to still have some kind of bruised ego resentment toward me, since he always gets what he wants. Anyone have any retorts for prude comments? I just feel like he's going to try and embarrass me.
runningfar Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I would tell your friends to help make sure you're not alone -and no one Well, everything turned to **** after that. He told me I was a prude, laughed at me, insinuated I was childish because "We're adults, he hasn't had a girl turn him down since high school, that if you want to sleep with someone you simply do it - that I'm being juvenile". He pretty much berated me for 2 hours, his comments really didn't bother me too much, it was the laughing that drove me nuts, but I didn't react to it. At one point, he told me he could just make me sleep with him when he had me pinned. I mean, who the **** says that? . I would tell your friends to help make sure you're not alone -and no one else. That guy is a danger to women. I would be afraid. I wouldn't poke at him. I wouldn't acknowledge him at all.
Ripnet Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Best thing to do is smile. I remember this one guy who worked at the video store, that whenever you see someone trying to upset you just smile, it usually upsets them and they stop the bad behaviour. My only question is why were you making out with him when you haven't even dated with the guy? It makes no sense to me.
daisybuchanan55 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Unless this camping trip is really important to you I probably wouldn't go. It wouldn't be worth it to me to put myself in a situation with someone who I know is probably going to insult and belittle me. If your friend asks why you're bailing tell her exactly why. Not only was he disrespectful and downright mean, he also seemed kind of scary with the "pinning you down" comment. If you DO decide to go, just smile and try to avoid being alone with him. Can't imagine this trip would be much fun though, having to avoid him and all... 1
happywithlife Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I wouldn't be thrilled about going, but if you feel strongly about it don't forget the pepper spray! If he tries to sneak into your tent to finish what he started on your friend's couch, that should stop him!
Phantom888 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I could really use some advice, or "one liners" as next weekend I'm going camping with a group of friends, and a guy I went on 1 failed date with last year will be there. This guy is a jerk and I really wouldn't put it past him to insult me. I'm 31 he's 28. Background is this guy is my friend's husband's friend. We ran into him a couple times last summer (maybe twice) and him being maybe 5 months out of a long term relationship, was asking my friend about me. I asked her to arrange a group date and we all went to a concert together, afterward to my friend's place. I had arrangements to crash at my friend's place, as I live 45 minutes from her place and where the venue it. The date did not, but they told him he should crash there since he had been drinking a bit. Everything was great at this point, we had kissed, then the **** hit the fan when my friend and her husband went to bed. Just a total 180 of character, I had met this guy in a mutual setting probably a total of 6 times over the last 2 years - he always seemed charming and nice. Anyway they went to bed, he started making out with me and he wanted to escalate things. I told him I wasn't going to sleep with him, we were on my friend's couch for Christ's sake, I'm not some horney little teenager...I didn't vocalise that, I just said I'd like to get to know him better and go on 'dates' before bringing it to that level. Well, everything turned to **** after that. He told me I was a prude, laughed at me, insinuated I was childish because "We're adults, he hasn't had a girl turn him down since high school, that if you want to sleep with someone you simply do it - that I'm being juvenile". He pretty much berated me for 2 hours, his comments really didn't bother me too much, it was the laughing that drove me nuts, but I didn't react to it. At one point, he told me he could just make me sleep with him when he had me pinned. I mean, who the **** says that? Anyway, I'm not afraid of him, and there will be a group of us camping next weekend - so I won't have to worry about being left alone with him. I'm more worried about insults from him. I wouldn't put it past him to still have some kind of bruised ego resentment toward me, since he always gets what he wants. Anyone have any retorts for prude comments? I just feel like he's going to try and embarrass me. Insult him back if he dares disrespect a woman. I mean this guy is a genuine a**hole. Bring a weapon and teach him a lesson. Cut off his nuts.
Author Country_Girl Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 Ripnet- I probably wouldn't 'make out' with someone on a first date normally, but he wasn't exactly a stranger. He kind of instigated that though, taking the TV remote out of my hand, shutting it off and crawling on me. It was just kissing though, I stopped him whenever his hands tried to venture. For the ones saying why even go if you're going to be belittled, that's the thing, I don't know if I will or won't be. I haven't run into him since the epic date fail. It's possible he won't bring it up, I just want to be prepared for it. My friend and I work together, so it is rare for us to be able to plan a trip like this (usually have opposite days off) - so there's no way I'm not going on account of him. I can hold my own regardless, I'm not worried about him. My friend is also a black belt who has won several championships, so just having her around is a weapon in itself heh :-) . I agreed with the poster about 'smiling'. All else fails, kill'em with kindness.
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