sayitasitis Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Been texting and speaking with a guy from OLD. I don't get excited by his texts or calls. It's not that he's boring but I can't put a finger on it. We haven't met. Should I read into my lack of enthusiasm and next? Or wait until I meet him? Anyone has such an experience?
pcplod Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Oh bloody hell, woman! I'm tempted to just say "Pass" to your post. Or suggest that you consult a clairvoyant. Maybe he is a raving lunatic who is just cautious until he meets a woman for real and then lets rip, leaving her head spinning? Or maybe he is a raving lunatic who carries around his own lightweight, portable soapbox from which to preach and the very first time he meets you he is going to put it firmly down in front of you, step on to it, and preach to you about the evils of fornication and loose, immoral women? Either way, you are figuratively standing, looking at the first hurdle and saying to yourself, "I don't know whether I fancy trying to jump over that one because I don't know what, if anything, is on the other side"? Well, either you adopt utter caution and don't take a risk, or for that matter any such risk, in which case making forward progress is going to be an awful slow business for you. While you are at it, I think you might also want to ask him for a full CV, externally validated and full profile photographs, again fully verified, of him, butt naked, frontal, side profile and rear, just to make sure all the basic bases are covered beforehand. He might think you a bit weird, though. What is really causing you angst? Meeting him face-to-face and having that confirm your fears but leaving you wondering how to extricate yourself politely, diplomatically and with dignity intact? At some point we all have to learn to deal with that; how to say "No thanks" without thinking is the ground going to swallow us up or is he or she going to react badly by blubbing or going stark raving mad. It does happen and it is difficult to deal with, but mercifully it is like most potential tragedies, thankfully relatively rare. Is there anything in his frightfully boring text messages to hint that he might turn on you in some way if you meet face-to-face and it does not go well? If there is, why are you here posting silly questions like this? PS I never give a simple answer to a question posed. If it's obvious you should have already thought of it or as an answer it is of little bloody use to anyone.
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