Mary3 Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 Some fantasy revenge ideas : ( you dont necessarily have to act on them ) Put some american cheese in her DVD player and press play lol Take some fish out of the freezer and stick it under her bed Get some red ants out in the garden and place them under her pillow Call the electric company and get the electric turned off If that one does not work ...unplug the refrigerator Take some of her lipstick and draw on the bathroom mirror " EVIL BITCH " Put cooking oil all over the shower knobs and when her stinky semen filled a** tries to take a shower she wont be able to turn the knobs... HOnestly guys I just made these up...I could think of a MILLION things he might do but please realize they are all fantasy and he may come up with some real good ones on his own
Scott S Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 Originally posted by Elguapo Well I spoke with her on the phone tonight and confirmed all my suspicions. Man, I thought I was handling it well, but as soon as the call was over I brike down like a little girl. We've both been under so much stress the last year and it seems that that just drove us apart. Now, I wish I could go back and work harder than ever to not let little things trip us up. My heart is ripped open, I can't imagine my life without her. I love her so much and we had such a wonderful time together. It's hard to believe that it's all over. I'm probably leaving tomorrow or the next day and I told her I don't want to see her again. What am I gonna do? Try not to be so hard on yourself. You've been through a lot recently. What all did she say? Did she admit to what she was doing, or is she still making a smokescreen? I'm sorry you've been hurt so badly. I know you regret things that happrened before, but remember it takes both to make the relationship work. There is shared responsibility. I don't know the specifics that led to this point, or what she may have tried to communicate to you, but she made the decision to do what she did. You've suffered a loss, & there is a grieving process to go through now. So let it happen.
amerikajin Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 Elguapo, Don't think about revenge, it's a waste of your time. Just calmly move on with your life, while at the same time letting her understand in no uncertain terms you're not about to take her s***. At the very least, you gotta move out and put a freeze on things for a few months. Normally, I'd be inclined to tell your little honey to sail on but you've invested some time in the relationship. You said that most of the relationship was good. Do you think this is a temporary problem that can be solved? Is she usually a dishonest person or is this just a case of her flipping out under unusual circumstances? Regardless, though, what she did was cold. As I said, I would definitely move out and get my own space and place - I pretty much agree with everyone else on that. What I'm wondering is, do you take a break and try to maybe talk and work things out somewhere down the road, or do you just move on for good. Understandably, right now, you don't even when to see her face in a picture much less talk to her, but once those feelings dissipate, you may be left thinking about a lot of issues. It might be good to talk to her heart-to-heart just to get some answers if nothing else. But that's your call, and that's something to worry about later. Right now, just look after yourself and get some peace.
CurlyIam Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 It is alright. You have to believe this. Think of no one else but yourself here. Accept the pain and the hurt and try not to blame yourself. Whatever happened one year ago, you were not alone. It takes 2 to have a great relationship.There is nothing that justifies cheating. Nothing. I personally would advise you to take amerikajin's advice if you can. I cannot. When I am hurt or upset I want explinations right there and then. That is wrong because people say things that they don't mean in fights. Try to cool down and come to terms with what happened. Don't do anything you might regret later. Also, Guapo, don't make the mistake to believe that leaving is so hard because you love her. Routine has its' way of creeping into your life and inslaving you. When I left our home, I thought the world had ended. I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, we would do everything together. Part of the pain you're feeling is also because you are used to having her in your life, regardless of what you feel for her. I just wanted to tell you this. Our mind plays dirty tricks on us... trust me.
billybadass36 Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 From past experience I would under no circumstances take back a cheater. Tried it before, and even if she regained your trust, it will always linger in the back of your mind. Hard to do, but man, you have to just sail on. Rather than discussing the problems in the relationship with you or just "taking a break" she decided to violate the one thing that relationships absolutely MUST have to work: trust. Some will tell you to get some space and then try to work it out. I'm telling you I've tried that game and it doesn't work.
amerikajin Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 Generally Billy, I'm a hard-liner just like you, and I'd say the odds are at least 80-90 percent that it won't work for the very reasons you've mentioned. Once the feeling's gone, it's usually gone for good. In some cases, though, when people invest enough time, energy and love in their relationship, it's possible to give it a shot - if that's what this guy wants. If he knows he's too hurt to do it, then yeah, it's probably an academic exercise at this point. I just don't want him to think it's an ironclad rule that you automatically quit whenever someone cheats on you, I don't think it's necessarily like that. That said, cheating is cheating, and it's damn hard to get back the love and trust once it's been lost. It's hard to get past the hurt, and it takes a strong person to work through it all and come out on top.
billybadass36 Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 I agree. Why someone would put another person through this completely boggles my mind, though.
CurlyIam Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 Pride is never a good adviser. Personally, I cannot live with regrets. If I have been disapointed by someone, I'd rather try again if I still love that person, than just quit and think of this for the rest of my life. He'll know if it will work out or not. It takes lots of courage to accept your feelings and even more to act upon them.
amerikajin Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 I guess there's no real magic bullet solution for something like this, is there? If it were me, my thought process would be: 1. Stop the relationship immediately, though not necessarily permanently. 2. Make her explain just wtf she's doing, and why she's doing it? Talk about the times when things were going well, and then try to find out what went wrong. 3. After that, spend some time alone and think about whether or not both of us have the desire to continue. If it weren't a 5-year relationship, I'd probably just end it and not even deal with it, but five years out of your life is significant. Maybe this is one of those rare times when you just see where things lead.
nitram100 Posted October 14, 2004 Posted October 14, 2004 Just think man, there is a girl out there somewhere that wouldnt even think of doing this. Leave that hoe, she'll ruin you. **** memories aswell, their overrated
Author Elguapo Posted October 15, 2004 Author Posted October 15, 2004 Thanks for all the replies. You have all given me a lot to think about. I'll post more on the situation in a bit.
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