KoKo0 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 When i was younger (18) I got a tattoo of my then boyfriends name on my inner forearm, I'm an idiot I know this. All these years I've been trying to wear longer sleeves, hiding it more and more as the years go by, lying to people if I was asked about it. I'm very ashamed as you can tell. I started dating this guy, and I've been trying to hide it desperately and so far he hasn't notice, but it is getting hot and that means less clothing, how do I deal with this and hide it until I save up for a cover up over.
OwlSoul Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Hm, I'm for honesty in relationships. Obviously you must not tell all dirty secrets at the first date. But... in case the person is really into you, it won't matter for the person. Especially if you'll mention that you're saving for getting rid of it. 1
Mallow Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 If the guy is genuine, he will see past a tattoo. We all have made choices that have resulted in regrets. Keep saving for the cover, until then accept it as apart of you, and so will others around you. 2
happywithlife Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Everyone makes mistakes - unfortunately, tattoo mistakes tend to stick with us! Be honest if he sees it and asks about it. Your current boyfriend shouldn't care that it is there. If he does, that's a red flag! And, if you don't feel comfortable with the tattoo, you should get it removed/covered up for yourself not for anyone else. 3
Emilia Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 but it is getting hot and that means less clothing, how do I deal with this and hide it until I save up for a cover up over. get a black pen and scribble over it every morning 4
veggirl Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 How old are you now? If you're broke just save $20 a paycheck til you have enough to cover it. I wouldn't date a guy with another chicks name tattooed on his arm. I mean esp if its been YEARS like you haven't been able to come up with a couple hundred bucks in YEARS to get something over that? (That's what I'd be thinking anyway.) 2
Phantom888 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 My ex-GF had her ex-husband's initials tattooed on her calf. I spent $450 to have her cover that with my name (was her idea). Now I don't know how she is ever gonna get that off...it was a huge tattoo! 1
veggirl Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 My ex-GF had her ex-husband's initials tattooed on her calf. I spent $450 to have her cover that with my name (was her idea). Now I don't know how she is ever gonna get that off...it was a huge tattoo! Omg. Your ex is a freakin dolt. It doesn't work out with guy tat 1 so she...does it again!? S.hit I think I'd dump a guy if he was gonna be that stupid TWICE.
daisybuchanan55 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I've got one even worse...a guy I dated had his ex-wife's name tattooed on him. He brought it up RIGHT away and said he planned on getting removed as soon as possible. I appreciated the honesty and it made me not care at all. I realize we all make mistakes, have regrets etc. Who am I to judge? And his immediacy in addressing it was very mature, I thought. Just be honest. We ALL make mistakes. If you two end up getting married maybe his wedding present to you can be tattoo removal sessions or paying for a cover-up 1
Hopeful30 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 If you go about trying to hide is desperately, he might get the wrong idea. He might think you still have feelings for the other guy, or that he's an ex you're hung up on. I agree with others posters that you should just be honest. Tell him exactly what you told us, that you're ashamed of it and did a stupid thing, and that you plan on getting it removed. I would also add "I try not to be too hard on myself because of that, and I hope others won't judge me too much for it." I personally don't like tattoos on a man, but if I met a guy who said that to me, that it's a mistake that he plans on fixing and he hopes I won't be judgemental, my respect for him would shoot up 100 points for a) being honest with me and b) not being afraid to accept that he made a mistake. It would make me more comfortable around him actually, it would make him seem more understanding and open-minded other than constantly being ashamed and hiding it from everyone. Self-acceptance is a very sexy quality I think, and if a guy can accept that he really f*cked up, then that's a MAN to me. Not a boy or some guy, but a MAN. Just my 2 cents 1
scorpio1978 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 My ex BF had his ex-wife's name tattooed over his heart. Needless to say, sex was awkward with another woman's name smacking you in the face. It's like she was in the bedroom with us, constantly reminding me that he loved her way more than me. No thanks!! 1
Author KoKo0 Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 If you go about trying to hide is desperately, he might get the wrong idea. He might think you still have feelings for the other guy, or that he's an ex you're hung up on. I agree with others posters that you should just be honest. Tell him exactly what you told us, that you're ashamed of it and did a stupid thing, and that you plan on getting it removed. I would also add "I try not to be too hard on myself because of that, and I hope others won't judge me too much for it." I personally don't like tattoos on a man, but if I met a guy who said that to me, that it's a mistake that he plans on fixing and he hopes I won't be judgemental, my respect for him would shoot up 100 points for a) being honest with me and b) not being afraid to accept that he made a mistake. It would make me more comfortable around him actually, it would make him seem more understanding and open-minded other than constantly being ashamed and hiding it from everyone. Self-acceptance is a very sexy quality I think, and if a guy can accept that he really f*cked up, then that's a MAN to me. Not a boy or some guy, but a MAN. Just my 2 cents I agree with you, but I've been hiding it before I met him and I have to accept it as it is for now and move on, I learned fro my mistake. Thanks
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