Balzac Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Marines are trained to kill. I'm positive he can entertain a conversation about babymaking. Trust me he's got fellow soldier friends who have kids.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 Marines are trained to kill. I'm positive he can entertain a conversation about babymaking. Trust me he's got fellow soldier friends who have kids. He does have friends with kids who are his age and he thinks they are all dumb for getting married and having kids so young. I guess when you join they talk you all the stats to discourage you from getting married young.
Balzac Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 So now you need to quantify what your Marine defines as young. How long you're willing to wait. IF he says under 30, I say your looking at game over. Why bother having sex w him. You're trying to stick in the single digits, correct?
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 So now you need to quantify what your Marine defines as young. How long you're willing to wait. IF he says under 30, I say your looking at game over. Why bother having sex w him. You're trying to stick in the single digits, correct? I should ask him, I'm just afraid it'll come off as weird so soon
clia Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 I should ask him, I'm just afraid it'll come off as weird so soon It will come off as weird. Also cuckoo. Get ready to see a cloud of dust as he runs away as fast as he can when you start talking about marriage and children six weeks after you met him. This is not a pressing issue for most 20 year olds. If you are still together in one year, then you can bring it up. Also, do you even care about the guy, or are you so concerned about getting married and having kids that any guy will do? Because I haven't heard you talk much about how you feel about this guy. Your feeling seems to be that if he wants to get married and have kids, you're in. Will he be sent away for long periods of time, given his career? How will you feel about essentially being a single mother when he is gone for months at a time? Are you sure being a military wife is even the type of life you would want? Or do you not care as long as you find a guy willing to impregnate you?
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 It will come off as weird. Also cuckoo. Get ready to see a cloud of dust as he runs away as fast as he can when you start talking about marriage and children six weeks after you met him. This is not a pressing issue for most 20 year olds. If you are still together in one year, then you can bring it up. Also, do you even care about the guy, or are you so concerned about getting married and having kids that any guy will do? Because I haven't heard you talk much about how you feel about this guy. Your feeling seems to be that if he wants to get married and have kids, you're in. Will he be sent away for long periods of time, given his career? How will you feel about essentially being a single mother when he is gone for months at a time? Are you sure being a military wife is even the type of life you would want? Or do you not care as long as you find a guy willing to impregnate you? See I feel like it would be weird to bring it up but I don't want to waste either of our times but then I don't know if we will even be together a month from now let alone a year from now. My therapist told me I need to just enjoy the time I have with him now but I have to think ahead you know? I don't want to end up 25 with no real relationship experience and then what? I planned on being in a serious relationship by then and trying for a baby or at least trying to be engaged... Anyways I do like him, but we are still in that beginning stage, I am just learning a lot about him and I really like spending time with him and he likes spending time with me and he makes me laugh so much, and he is brutally honest. He actually hurt my feelings a little once because he is so honest BUT he doesn't mean to be rude he just has no filter I kind of like it. He is super shy and introverted and I'm the total opposite, it is weird though we don't have a ton in common but it works out for now. As far as his job, I honestly don't know I mean he is going to training for two weeks and its been 3 days since he left and I'm like "hurry hurry come back!". I always thought being a military spouse would be so awesome because so many of my friends married military men (none of those marriages worked out) now I'm like :/ I don't know it seems very stressful and sad. I don't know.
davyvfr Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 See I feel like it would be weird to bring it up but I don't want to waste either of our times but then I don't know if we will even be together a month from now let alone a year from now. My therapist told me I need to just enjoy the time I have with him now but I have to think ahead you know? I don't want to end up 25 with no real relationship experience and then what? I planned on being in a serious relationship by then and trying for a baby or at least trying to be engaged... Anyways I do like him, but we are still in that beginning stage, I am just learning a lot about him and I really like spending time with him and he likes spending time with me and he makes me laugh so much, and he is brutally honest. He actually hurt my feelings a little once because he is so honest BUT he doesn't mean to be rude he just has no filter I kind of like it. He is super shy and introverted and I'm the total opposite, it is weird though we don't have a ton in common but it works out for now. As far as his job, I honestly don't know I mean he is going to training for two weeks and its been 3 days since he left and I'm like "hurry hurry come back!". I always thought being a military spouse would be so awesome because so many of my friends married military men (none of those marriages worked out) now I'm like :/ I don't know it seems very stressful and sad. I don't know. The guy is only twenty years old, he hasn't even lived half his life. Judging from your post, he sounds like he doesn't want kids (yet, at least) , and has not fulfilled all his goals in life before getting married. Secondly, you need to stop planning to far ahead. If he just decides to walk away and leave, then what? I see way to many people planning their future ahead before they are even married and live in a world of hurt when they realize it doesn't come true. Also, what would your boyfriend think of some of these post? (especially where you mention of committing suicide) You seem to be coming off as downright desperate. Secondly, don't "try" for serious relationships as they will happen naturally if they are really meant to be.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 The guy is only twenty years old, he hasn't even lived half his life. Judging from your post, he sounds like he doesn't want kids (yet, at least) , and has not fulfilled all his goals in life before getting married. Secondly, you need to stop planning to far ahead. If he just decides to walk away and leave, then what? I see way to many people planning their future ahead before they are even married and live in a world of hurt when they realize it doesn't come true. Also, what would your boyfriend think of some of these post? (especially where you mention of committing suicide) You seem to be coming off as downright desperate. Secondly, don't "try" for serious relationships as they will happen naturally if they are really meant to be. I would NEVeR want him to see this post or any of my posts...I feel like you have to try for a serious relationship idk I feel like he and I could get serious, it's just so early! It's only been a month and a half I want to try to just enjoy the time and not think ahead but I'm not getting any younger you know
davyvfr Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 I would NEVeR want him to see this post or any of my posts...I feel like you have to try for a serious relationship idk I feel like he and I could get serious, it's just so early! It's only been a month and a half I want to try to just enjoy the time and not think ahead but I'm not getting any younger you know Just wondering, how is your social life? Do you hang out with friends a lot? Maybe getting involved in your community or doing physical activities might make you feel "younger" and get you to put the idea of having kids early in life on the back burner. After reading all your post I thought you were in your 40's, then everything would make more sense, but not in your early 20's. Most college students just begin living their career life at 22 and he has not even reached that age. Also, I know this might be random, but ask him what his goals are in life before marriage.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 Just wondering, how is your social life? Do you hang out with friends a lot? Maybe getting involved in your community or doing physical activities might make you feel "younger" and get you to put the idea of having kids early in life on the back burner. After reading all your post I thought you were in your 40's, then everything would make more sense, but not in your early 20's. Most college students just begin living their career life at 22 and he has not even reached that age. Also, I know this might be random, but ask him what his goals are in life before marriage. Umm I really only talk to one of my bestfriends regularly, the other has a boyfriend and I just have no real desire to see her, the other lives about 45 mins away with her new college friends so idk I mean I would 3 days a week (intern actually) and it keeps me fairly busy and on weekends I hang out with this new guy and before him I went on dates.
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