jaylh36 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Hi guys, bit of advice please.. Met this girl few years back.. hit it off but she had just got out of a very long relationship.. we got very close but ultimately cooled it off after a few months as she was still not over her ex.. we kept in touch most days online and would meet every month or for dinner and catch up. Always a very strong chemistry there which she would comment on... She always knew i had feelings for her and would love to give it a try again.. most times we met she would always ask if i was seeing anybody.. and while ive had dates, there was nothing special going on... she would always say the same and she was married to her job.. Earlier this year i found out by accident through a mutual friend she actually had a boyfriend and had been seeing him for quite a while... i was extremely surprised and a bit miffed she hadnt been upfront and told me. When we chatted I told her about it and she got quite defensive etc... i told her that given my feelings about her i couldnt keep buzzing her and meeting for dinner etc as for one it wasnt appropriate seeing she was seeing someone and secondly i couldnt be close friends with someone i had feelings for and watch a relationship with someone else develop... she said she understood and that was that... i didnt contact her nor did i log on to the usual IM we used to chat on... About a month ago she started logging on to another IM i use for business... we had added each other when we first met but in 2 years id never seen her on there... she eventually buzzed and told me she was sorry about everything, hope i would forgive her and it was karma as she had split up with the guy.. i just told her i was sorry to hear about it and was nice to hear off her and to buzz if she wanted to chat or have a coffee...havent spoke since although she continues to be on the IM every day now... weird having someone you were close to online but we don't speak! Not really sure how to play this... i do miss her and i do still have feelings for her but not sure why she chose to get back in touch etc... would welcome anyones thoughts....
coltsfan1 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Play it like you said it. You told her to contact you if she wants to speak, right? Leave it at that, you have alleviated her guilt. Now its on her.
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