Kramerica Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Hi all, We broke up about 5 weeks ago after 3 years. Pretty much said she had fallen out in love with me; she had been acting different for a good month or so. Was shattered, loved her more than anything. Didn't speak for a week or so, called her and she hadn't changed her mind, then went NC for 3 1/2 weeks. Was feeling fine, much better untill a friend recommended I text her. Got me back thinking about her and I ended up texting. We texted back and forth for a while, then she called me. Spoke for a while (over an hour) about lots of things, joked a bit, she apologised for being distant, talked about how had it is etc. It was like the start again, we were talking really fast trying to get as much info in the call. I also said maybe we should meet up in a week or so, she was hesitant at first saying it may be a bit hard for her, but said we can and to call her next week. After speaking she texted that is was really nice to talk to me. Now, I'm just seeing if it is a good idea to meet up? I don't really know what I'd do, but I won't be begging her to take me back, it's too painful. Deep down I don't want to give up without a fight for the love of my life, but I have also been through a breakup before and know how painful false hope is. I have also learnt to not force the issue, if they are going to come back then they will, if they aren't then there is nothing that you can do. We both have the same friends group, and I am close with members of her family (from pre relationship, known her for years). So we will have to be amicable. What should I do? Is there any hope? Can people fall back in love if significant life changes have been made? If not, how can I move on? Any advice would be great. Cheers
aloneinaz Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 If you think you can handle meeting up with her emotionally, then I'd meet up wtih her. Just be realistic in knowing she ended the relationship because she fell out of love for you or something was missing. What's changed in 4 weeks? Why is she going to feel any different? It seems to me that in most cases, when couple's break up, even once, then the relationship is doomed. I know several long term married couples. They still are in love and are each others best friends. NONE of them ever broke up at any stage of the relationship.
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 No, you should not meet up. And your "friend" didn't do you any favors by having you text her.
Pisces13 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 It seems to me that in most cases, when couple's break up, even once, then the relationship is doomed. I know several long term married couples. They still are in love and are each others best friends. NONE of them ever broke up at any stage of the relationship. You can't generalize either though, every relationship and situation is unique. There are a lot of couples out there who have broken up only to have gotten back together at some stage, and are still happily together years later. I don't really believe in the "one", but I do think that some people just belong together, and can go through so much crap, yet still have so much love and admiration for one another. I think that sometimes couples just need that time apart to do their own thing or work on themselves before working out/realizing what it is they want.
Simon Phoenix Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I love the username, but no, you shouldn't meet up at this time. It's only been four weeks, and you haven't made any significant changes in that time. Not a knock on you, no one can do that in four weeks. Maybe at the four-month mark you'll have settled down enough and actually made real changes and you can talk to her then, but now would be tragic. 1
forgetmenot75 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Do not meet. Do not text her back. She's been clear that she doesn't love yoi anymore, and she's demonstrated this for as long as a month. I venture to think she has no romantic interests whatsoever on you. stay NC and move on.
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