zcolman Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 So I wanted to come on here and let everyone know where Im at. My ex broke up with me almost 9 months ago after a 3 yr relationship. Well we finally met up twice this last weekend. We have both decided to take it slow. So I will give everyone an update as it progresses. But what I will say is that it has been a very hard 9 months of trying to move on but not and having my ex realize the grass isnt greener and that I changed what I needed to change. Zack
Author zcolman Posted June 14, 2013 Author Posted June 14, 2013 Well it kind of just happened. I stopped forcing and over time she asked me to help her on her resume(over computer of course). In return she made me cupcakes. I asked her if we could meet up to give me the cupcakes and she agreed. Once we meet up and she finally saw me for the first time in 8 months she broke. Told me she missed me and was still in love with me. The next night at dinner we both discussed taking it slow. Meeting next week for coffee, a week after for a movie, also planning on starting up a dancing class together that will be once a week. She doesn't want to rush and I agree bc she has to see my changed naturally and I need to guard my heart a bit bc of the last 8 months. But it is seeming to go smoothly at this point.
totallylost5040 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Hey that's great! I'm seeing my ex for once in a month (she broke no contact over email and ask if we could meet up and i've been dragging it on for 2 weeks), I'm sure I shouldn't do it.... shoot.... that's great that she misses you though, I'm happy for you both. any advice for me? lol
Simon Phoenix Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Hey that's great! I'm seeing my ex for once in a month (she broke no contact over email and ask if we could meet up and i've been dragging it on for 2 weeks), I'm sure I shouldn't do it.... shoot.... that's great that she misses you though, I'm happy for you both. any advice for me? lol She didn't break NC, you did. NC is for you and you only -- only you can break your NC. Pet peeve of mine when people accuse the other person of breaking it.
totallylost5040 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Good point. I guess I can see that now, now that you put it that way.
Author zcolman Posted June 14, 2013 Author Posted June 14, 2013 Well if she talked back and wants to meet up, who cares who broke no contact. Honestly the push pull goes both ways so much if u both care that u cant remeber anymore. I honestly never gave up hope, it was harder on me to move on, but made me stronger. Just go with the flow if you meet and dont ask about what she has done during the break up. Its hard but it really doesnt matter.. 1
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