vonfolly8 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I've been broken up with my ex for a while now, and i'm still obsessive over him and his actions. I know it's not normal and I shouldn't even care about these things, but I do and i'm still hurt by everything, even almost a year later. We've been NC for a few months now, and the last time we spoke wasn't pleasant. I've noticed that he's still messing around with this girl he's been on and off with since we broke up, and they go to bars together and still hang out even though she has a boyfriend. I know they work together, but I don't get it and it doesn't seem fair. I guess the reason why it bothers me so much is because I know i'll probably never have the chance to be in his life again with the way I treated him in the past. I know i'm the one responsible for breaking up him and his ex and i'm sure he hates me for it. I'm slowly learning to get over it, but I still cry every day and live with constant regret. I'm currently going to therapy and it isn't helping much. I don't know what else to do, i've tried just about everything.
melodicintention Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Go ride your bike, go to a movie, hang out at the library, call a friend, take a knitting class....just go do SOMETHING to get out of your funk and distract yourself from your obsessive thoughts. You aren't changing your environment, you are wallowing in the same one which induces the same thoughts. Write these thoughts down on a piece of paper. Then crumple up the paper and throw it away. This will actually help you mentally get rid of the thoughts. Then go carpe the damn diem.
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