daddy87 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Me and my ex have broke up for awhile now we still see each other quiet often because we have a child together, but until today she still not sure if she wants to get back or not, bare in mind she broke up with me. At the moment i feel stuck because i dont know if i should still carry on what im doing hoping that spending time like a family would help us get back or just do things separately. I do know that when my ex finds out that ive been taking our child out to do things without her she gets upset but i just cant find myself being around her not knowing whats happening with us, i mean she does ask me to stay around hers few nights a week as ive moved out since we broke up, but we dont do anything sexually which frustrates me sometimes because this have been going on for nearly a year. I think the reason me and my ex broke up was because when we got together she was only 17 and i was 21, after a few years relationship we had our first baby together. Everything seems amazing after we had our baby but not long after she turned 1 my ex starting to take care of her self and wanted to loose some baby weight which was fine with me. But eventually she wanted to look for a job which was good but she got into like a big warehouse job which mainly just men working there. I wasn't to keen at first as i had a bad feeling about it but i just brushed it off and thought everything was ok. My feeling was right, not long after she started work i can tell she was drifting away from me and all she ever spoke to me about was what she did at work and her work friends even now she still does. Then couple of months after it got worse so we had a chat and she basically said she loves me but NOT in love with me, it absolutely crushed me into bits i never felt like this before and she didn't really gave me an answer she just tried to say we had problems awhile ago. Since we broke up her emotion have been weird i mean she wanted to break up but she still want me around like we used to but just not do anything sexual or sometimes she will go cold and not bothering or making effort with me? Because i still love her a lot then id let her play me around....BAD i know! Id say probably the last few months i been feeling a bit better mainly because i know its not going anywhere and I'm feeling pretty fed up! I used to get dead excited when she ask me to go around but when I'm there i feel different because i know its not the same so recently i have tried my best to avoid to go there but as we got a child together i find it extremely hard to heal as i still need to see my ex. Also when I'm with her she will ask what I've been up to or if I'm replying a txt while I'm there she will ask who I'm speaking to and stuff?! I just don't know how i feel anymore, i do still love her but i don't know if i got the energy anymore to wait for something probably wont even happen. What do you guys think i should do?? is there any single parent on here been through similar situation?? Please give me your advice. Many thanks
theonlyjuan Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I'm not a single parent You both have to 100% want to make it work. Having a child makes things harder but you also need to have a life that you enjoy. If you are getting fed up your obviously not enjoying yourself. My ex never developed love for me, so I kind of know how that feels. Love is complicated and for whatever reason she feels that, you can't change it. People know when a relationship isn't going anywhere, and you sound like you know yours is not. She sounds like she wants you around when she feels like it.
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