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HI. Im in a ldr with my bf for a year now we have had our ups and downs, more downs than ups but are still together.

Due to the fact im from a very conservative family . I am not allowed to take obscene and nude pics of myself or have a web cam.

My bf loves me alot and we intimate on skype by talk rather than video. some time ago he asked me if was ok with the notion of me sex chatting with him intimately on skype just voice call as i cant video . If it was ok with me that he look at nude pics of pornstars or girls while we are having our intimate time together on voice call on skype.

 

Is it wrong of me to say its ok that he can as i cant give him what he wants.. :(

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How old are you both?

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I am not allowed to take obscene and nude pics of myself or have a web cam.

My bf loves me alot and we intimate on skype by talk rather than video. some time ago he asked me if was ok with the notion of me sex chatting with him intimately on skype just voice call as i cant video

Are you mute? I don't know how voice calls can happen.

 

If it was ok with me that he look at nude pics of pornstars or girls while we are having our intimate time together on voice call on skype.
I would suggest you don't care what your parents say on this, and take some sexy pictures, not necessarily naked, but... you've never met him, and I don't think it's the case at this stage. You might regret it afterwards. I wouldn't be OK with my man looking at pictures of sex workers to fulfil his libido needs. I'd want him to be horny for me. Maybe you can try to get a cell phone with a camera, and your parents won't figure out you're using it with a guy. But you should use it well then. Not ending up being used.

 

I don't know how fragile you are and how much you could be let down after a LDR gone wrong. Because there are other issues for you adding up. You really need bonding with someone. Saying that your LDR is difficult would be an understatement.

 

Is it wrong of me to say its ok that he can as i cant give him what he wants.. :(
It's not wrong, if that's what you truly feel. If you won't cry over it. Otherwise just say NO. Be yourself and don't care about what others would or wouldn't do if they were in your shoes.
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I think u shud talk it without him.

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Are you mute? I don't know how voice calls can happen.

 

I would suggest you don't care what your parents say on this, and take some sexy pictures, not necessarily naked, but... you've never met him, and I don't think it's the case at this stage. You might regret it afterwards. I wouldn't be OK with my man looking at pictures of sex workers to fulfil his libido needs. I'd want him to be horny for me. Maybe you can try to get a cell phone with a camera, and your parents won't figure out you're using it with a guy. But you should use it well then. Not ending up being used.

 

I don't know how fragile you are and how much you could be let down after a LDR gone wrong. Because there are other issues for you adding up. You really need bonding with someone. Saying that your LDR is difficult would be an understatement.

 

It's not wrong, if that's what you truly feel. If you won't cry over it. Otherwise just say NO. Be yourself and don't care about what others would or wouldn't do if they were in your shoes.

Are you mute? I don't know how voice calls can happen.

 

I would suggest you don't care what your parents say on this, and take some sexy pictures, not necessarily naked, but... you've never met him, and I don't think it's the case at this stage. You might regret it afterwards. I wouldn't be OK with my man looking at pictures of sex workers to fulfil his libido needs. I'd want him to be horny for me. Maybe you can try to get a cell phone with a camera, and your parents won't figure out you're using it with a guy. But you should use it well then. Not ending up being used.

 

I don't know how fragile you are and how much you could be let down after a LDR gone wrong. Because there are other issues for you adding up. You really need bonding with someone. Saying that your LDR is difficult would be an understatement.

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Are you mute? I don't know how voice calls can happen.

 

I would suggest you don't care what your parents say on this, and take some sexy pictures, not necessarily naked, but... you've never met him, and I don't think it's the case at this stage. You might regret it afterwards. I wouldn't be OK with my man looking at pictures of sex workers to fulfil his libido needs. I'd want him to be horny for me. Maybe you can try to get a cell phone with a camera, and your parents won't figure out you're using it with a guy. But you should use it well then. Not ending up being used.

 

I don't know how fragile you are and how much you could be let down after a LDR gone wrong. Because there are other issues for you adding up. You really need bonding with someone. Saying that your LDR is difficult would be an understatement.

 

It's not wrong, if that's what you truly feel. If you won't cry over it. Otherwise just say NO. Be yourself and don't care about what others would or wouldn't do if they were in your shoes.

Hi im not mute, its just a pseudonym i used. I tried to do what u said before alot of times and i came close to it but my family are very protective of me and conservative and its not that easy. Its not that he doesnt understand that, he does and he still loves me and wants me. I think its not wrong for me to say ok to his wish as i cant give him what he wants and it wud be unfair to him. I know in my heart and mind he would still love me and want me , so i would accept it and not cry over it. Cause compromise is the key to a relationship especially a ldr one.

dont u think im right ?

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Hi im not mute, its just a pseudonym i used. I tried to do what u said before alot of times and i came close to it but my family are very protective of me and conservative and its not that easy. Its not that he doesnt understand that, he does and he still loves me and wants me. I think its not wrong for me to say ok to his wish as i cant give him what he wants and it wud be unfair to him. I know in my heart and mind he would still love me and want me , so i would accept it and not cry over it. Cause compromise is the key to a relationship especially a ldr one.

dont u think im right ?

 

No.

 

I don't.

 

Do not convince yourself that him doing this is ok with you, if it isn't.

Compromise leaves both parties with a certain amount of personal satisfaction.

 

If you get less out of this than he does, it's not compromise.

It's putting up with something to make someone happy - but at the expense of your own principles.

 

Nope.

not good.

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I wouldn't recommend this with someone you've never met.

 

 

HI. Im in a ldr with my bf for a year now we have had our ups and downs, more downs than ups but are still together.

Due to the fact im from a very conservative family . I am not allowed to take obscene and nude pics of myself or have a web cam.

My bf loves me alot and we intimate on skype by talk rather than video. some time ago he asked me if was ok with the notion of me sex chatting with him intimately on skype just voice call as i cant video . If it was ok with me that he look at nude pics of pornstars or girls while we are having our intimate time together on voice call on skype.

 

Is it wrong of me to say its ok that he can as i cant give him what he wants.. :(

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If it was ok with me that he look at nude pics of pornstars or girls while we are having our intimate time together on voice call on skype.

 

Is it wrong of me to say its ok that he can as i cant give him what he wants.. :(

 

Only you can answer that.

 

Does it make you feel sad or dirty (in a bad way) to agree to him looking at porn while on the phone with you?

 

Or does it turn you on, or not affect you emotionally at all?

 

Be true to yourself. If you don't like the idea, don't agree to it. If it doesn't bother you, it doesn't matter what other people think.

 

In your gut, you already know what is true according to your values. Go with that.

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Are Mute and Jasmine Anjum the same person? Maybe just identical twins. ;) Read "my ldr love story."

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Are Mute and Jasmine Anjum the same person? Maybe just identical twins. ;) Read "my ldr love story."

Except Mute isn't mute... just a nickname. :rolleyes:

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Except Mute isn't mute... just a nickname. :rolleyes:

 

Ummm... Like FitChick I'm not sure about that...

 

Best,

TMichaels

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Well Im not this person Jasmine , just so u guys know. My story and life are way different than hers..

I would be obliged if u gave me advice pls.

and fitchick im 24 and my bf is 27

Im from sydney and hes from france.

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Due to the fact im from a very conservative family . I am not allowed to take obscene and nude pics of myself or have a web cam.

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im 24 and my bf is 27

Im from sydney and hes from france.

 

Really? You're 24 and not "allowed" to own a webcam? There's no advice I can give you, except for welcome to your adulthood and start making decisions for yourself.

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