charlietheginger Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Have you dated a socially akward person The guy who kinda sits with a expressionless face Like edward scissors hands and a robotic voice... When you talk its more of a speech than a conversatio its as if about teaching or sharing information rather Then just enjoying the person The woman who uses a fake smile and too much Eye contact to make man think she likes him. Then you ignore his calls and return his calls at your leisure And wonder why your single. When you do talk Its all about you and no real interests in the man. Anyone encounter these kind of people?
mammasita Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Dammit, maybe thats why I'm single Seriously though. I have never dated a man that was anything like you describe. I don't know if I could deal with it. I might try to slit my wrists.
SJC2008 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 My SA can sometimes make me seem a little sociall awkward but it's just tenseness. The last woman I dated even said I seemed tense on our 3rd date.
will1988 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 My fiance and I are exact opposates. She is socially awkward. For example, she knows my whole family, and they love her... and knowing she will be their daughter-in-law or grand etc... they love her like a daughter. They always remark about how nice and sweet she is. Which is true. But when my loud and argumentative family has dinner together every sunday night (we are of irish and italian heritage, so you can expect it to be a very interesting night) she sits there and eats her food and just nods her head... maybe saying a few words here and there. she has known my family for years and sees them at least once a week. Yet, she doesn't know what to talk about with them. She is not in to politics, religion, sports etc... the stuff my family only seems to talk about. So she just keeps her mouth shut. When people do talk to her she will most likely only give "yes" "No" type of answers. Her and I have great conversations together... Yet, I was the one to start this. I pryed her out of her shell, and it took me a while to do it. However, she is not as comfortable with other people. She complains about not having any friends or family where we live (she moved in with me about a year ago... before then she lived about 8 hours away where i went to college). Yet every time someone tries to hang out with her, whether a coworker, someone from class, or my brother's wife, my fiance just comes up with excuses and flakes out. It annoys me sometimes. Especially since I am really outgoing and have lots of friends and family. However, it does not deminish my love for her. I could care less how she interacts with my family, or that she has only online friends. I love her for who she is, not who she associates with (or lack there of).
GorillaTheater Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I think sometimes it's difficult to know whether in a particular case it's social awkwardness or disinterest. I once went out with a girl who didn't start any conversation, avoided eye contact, and gave me no kind of feedback at all. I was like "why are you here, exactly?" Total lack of interest? Very shy/awkward? Austistic? Zombie? Who the hell knows. It sure seemed like a loooooong date, though.
Anela Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 This is what I was getting at in the thread about people flaking. I've dealt with social anxiety for years, and I was just too much of a mess in the past couple, to deal with actually meeting people and possibly being rejected. But people will assume that it's because there's no attraction to them, or they just don't have the balls to do this or that. they don't take into account that the person might be being honest.
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