IS IT Better late Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 So I'm craving to text her today real bad! It's been 9 days since last text convo. She cancelled a date last go around and I told her not to jerk me around. I don't think she enjoyed that. But she deserved it. She ended our last text convo saying "brb" and never came back. Left me f-ing hanging. So childish and annoying to me. She gave me so much false hope with all her breadcrumbs over the last 3-months. Maybe this is the end for good? That's why I'm bugging out today. I know its flat out retarded that still want to text her after such poor treatment and disrespect from her. But I still f-ing miss her soo badly. Please yell at me and give me reasons not to do it! Don't tell me to delete her # though. Damn emotions!!
mahon451 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Ahem. DON'T F***ING DO IT. It's not worth the time or emotional trauma. She's clearly sending you a message, and that message is, "Dance, puppet, dance!" Don't do the dance. Check the hell out, and don't say another word to her. No texts, no calls, no FB... nothing. If you must vent, do it here.
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I know you have been around here long enough to know exactly what to do. But, I'll indulge anyway . You have 2 choices: 1. Continue to string yourself along and delay your healing and live inconstant self-inflicted pain and suffering. She will not help you out of this mess!!! 2. Begin and stay NC no matter what. Do not initiate OR respond to any breadcrumbs. Block and delete as needed, but do not, under ANY circumstances engage in any contact what so ever with her. The choice is yours
itto ogami Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Imagine yourself getting stronger, healthier with every second you DO NOT RESPOND. Because that's what will happen.
will1988 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 She is a worthless ______! You can do better! Don't be her little biotch... don't let her toy with your emotions like a puppet on a string! Get your balls out of her coin purse and be a man for once! If you text her or anything of the sort, you will be viewed as a silly little puppy to play with and then ignore! She wants you to be putty in her hands. She wants you to be her doormat. Don't do it! Be a man! Don't be a little limp wristed sissy weakling! If you text her you will be the laughing stock of her and her friends! They will say "oh look at your weak little ex ____ he is so cute when he comes groveling for attention like a beat dog!". Don't fall for her tricks! Time to grow a pair and move on! Be a man for Christ's sakes! How did I do? 2
Author IS IT Better late Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 Thanks brothers! Good job will! Mtn biker you right but sometimes you need reinforcement. I know what the right move is but it takes a ton of strenght to do it. I'm a pus lol. I believed all her breadcrumbs for awhile, telling me how she wants to see me even said are you busy such & such night but then comes up with excuse a few days later why she can't make it. She did it to me twice. So I told her don't jerk me around and she had the nerve to get upset with me for telling her that? Then she leaves me hanging. What a sucker I am. I miss that box though. You understand right!
StraylightRun24 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Better late, Please be strong and don't cave and text her. Yes we all know the anxious/crappy feeling of wanting to reach out to our exes on here. You have two options: 1) You get through this moment with out texting her and sadly you probably feel like utter cow dung for the rest of the day, BUT you wake up tomorrow or possibly the next day and are amazed you had the will power not to cave and reach out. This ultimately leads to a step in your healing process or 2) You cave and if she actually responds you have an emotional high, BUT unfortunately this won't last. You'll wake up tomorrow or possibly the next day regretting it while possibly questioning your self worth and definitely hampering your overall healing process. As someone who knows a little more insight about your story I'd REALLY recommend not doing it. Like I said above it sucks, but at the end of the day it's the right thing to do. Hang in there buddy! You are a lot stronger than you think!
Author IS IT Better late Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 Thanks Stray! This whole up & down thing. One day I feel strong and feel like myself again next day I'm still obsessing over her. Vivid memories that stop me in my tracks. She's never ignored me and neither have I ignored her. I'm not sure if more breadcrumbs are coming but everytime I get a text I still secretly hope its her. Still strung man... How are you doing? Is she still haunting you? Find any new box yet?
StraylightRun24 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Haunts me almost every single day Better but at this point I'm causing my own misery cause she moved on with her life without me in it months ago! After I didn't wish her a happy b-day at the end of May I had a string of days where I actually felt almost like old me, but then I did something extremely stupid and creeped on her FB and looked at her music website and stupidly watched a video with her in it. It was the first time I've heard her voice since a couple days after the BU and let me tell you, it really set me back. As for new box........there is a girl I've been hanging out with since about a month after my BU who really digs me, but unfortunately I just see her as a friend. I can't lie, she does give me a little ego boost though. Hanging out with her makes me feel like maybe I'm not doomed to be alone for the rest of my existence.
landshark Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Everybody on here is spot on, take a couple of deep breaths, go for a walk, call your Mom. Do what you have to do but make resisting the urge to call a habit. I've been at this for six weeks and feel alot better. Am I over it, no, but I'm starting to see her for who she is. When I was violating no contact I had no perspective and realized that I was wasting my time texting, wanting to get together, etc,...Now at least I have SOME perspective...
Author IS IT Better late Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 Landshark, Did your chick jerk you around and talk about meeting up and then cancelling? Ton's of false hope. See I did my best to hide any hurt and anger from her b/c I knew it would make me look weak in her eyes. So I don't think she sees keeping in touch with me as a big deal. She has no idea the world of pain she caused me. But I would also say her breadcrumbs have helped me repair my own ego b/c if she would've went cold turkey and never reached out to me that would've made me feel really worthless. Like she had forgotten I ever lived. Stray that's killer! I bet you wanted to jump through the screen and grab her! I know that feeling. This biotch after 2-months BU send me pics and videos of her out and I could see her and hear her voice again. I wanted to jump inside my phone and pull her out lol. At the end of day I'm still a mess about this and I don't know why she strings me along. I've been strong before and not texted her but I don't know. I almost feel like I should let out a last burst, clear my mind then delete her # and close this chapter for good. Not really closure, but more getting the shyt out my head thats still dancing around.
StraylightRun24 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Landshark, Did your chick jerk you around and talk about meeting up and then cancelling? Ton's of false hope. See I did my best to hide any hurt and anger from her b/c I knew it would make me look weak in her eyes. So I don't think she sees keeping in touch with me as a big deal. She has no idea the world of pain she caused me. But I would also say her breadcrumbs have helped me repair my own ego b/c if she would've went cold turkey and never reached out to me that would've made me feel really worthless. Like she had forgotten I ever lived. Stray that's killer! I bet you wanted to jump through the screen and grab her! I know that feeling. This biotch after 2-months BU send me pics and videos of her out and I could see her and hear her voice again. I wanted to jump inside my phone and pull her out lol. At the end of day I'm still a mess about this and I don't know why she strings me along. I've been strong before and not texted her but I don't know. I almost feel like I should let out a last burst, clear my mind then delete her # and close this chapter for good. Not really closure, but more getting the shyt out my head thats still dancing around. Better I don't mean this to come across as harsh but she's stringing you along because you are allowing her to. As a couple of the other posters have commented in the thread already she views you as a puppy or puppet. You're better than that Better! All of us on here can only give you our opinion of what we think you should do and at the end of the day you are going to what you feel is the right cause of action so if you think clearing the air with her and letting her know how hurt you were by the BU and the breadcrumbs go ahead and do it. I however don't think that's a good idea, but that's based on my personal experiences. I struggle with the same thoughts man, but I know my ex realizes how much I was hurt over the BU....I mean all she had to do was look at my face when she was doing it! In the end it doesn't matter if she realizes (which she probably does I might add) how much you have hurt over her/BU. At this point all that matters is you and your well being!
landshark Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 She blew me off then invited me to her graduation with her new bf...DONE...told her in person that we weren't friends...
McGriff Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 IIBL, McGriff checking in...been a couple weeks since I've been here. I know it's tough, and like me, you look forward to breadcrumbs vs not getting them. I know, I know. I still get them from my ex, hell, she just called me this afternoon and left a VM wanting to go to lunch. Honestly, I've been starting to detach from her WHILE getting breadcrumbs. I think I just started realizing my self worth and I've taken the position that she sends breadcrumbs constantly because SHE can't let go. I never initiate anything, half the time she reaches out I'm with another chick, and that feels good. BTW, and many of you will laugh or judge me for this, but I ran into my ex wife's cousin a week ago at a bar, and she basically threw herself at me. I was sitting there, texting all my friends, trying to make a decision on what to do because she's really attractive, and ended up doing the deed. Hahaha---I do regret it now, because it could NEVER be and she seems to think it could, but anyway, point is, I'm moving on with my life, and I can say that I've really been LIVING since the breakup. I'm starting to see she did me a favor. Do I love her and miss her? Yeah, I'd be lying if I said I didn't, but my mother has been hammering these words into my head for a couple months now "you can't control what others do, you can only control what you do", and it's finally starting to penetrate my thick skull. She's right, my ex sends me breadcrumbs and maybe always will, I don't know, but all I do is control my own life, do what I wanna do. She chose her path and that's cool. Now I'm still not ready to commit to anyone, as my heart is still healing, but it sure is fun getting back out there and meeting people. That's what you need to do. Fill your downtime, cause that's when the obsessing comes. Watch movies, hell just even go for a walk around your neighborhood and talk to your neighbors...I actually did that and got invited to a barbecue last weekend! Met some cool people and now I have them as friends. Damn I'm long winded, sorry.
crazy1234 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 So I'm craving to text her today real bad! It's been 9 days since last text convo. She cancelled a date last go around and I told her not to jerk me around. I don't think she enjoyed that. But she deserved it. She ended our last text convo saying "brb" and never came back. Left me f-ing hanging. So childish and annoying to me. She gave me so much false hope with all her breadcrumbs over the last 3-months. Maybe this is the end for good? That's why I'm bugging out today. I know its flat out retarded that still want to text her after such poor treatment and disrespect from her. But I still f-ing miss her soo badly. Please yell at me and give me reasons not to do it! Don't tell me to delete her # though. Damn emotions!! Just dont ****ing do it.Have some respect for yourself otherwise you'll lose whatever theres left of you.Let her go nomatter how much it hurts.Look at her,she'z treating you like ****.She didnt even bother to send you a text after she said brb,I mean are you really that worthless who doesnt even deserve a response?Tell yourself that you wont talk to her nomatter how much it hurts.Walk away for your own self for once in your life.Walk away with self respect.
Author IS IT Better late Posted June 14, 2013 Author Posted June 14, 2013 Crazy, Good shyt brother! I needed that! I woke up feeling strong today, still think about banging her every morning though lol. But not obsessing today. She left me hanging like some sort of A-hole and I do have respect for myself. I never begged her to come back. I stopped texting her about 3-weeks after the BU. She for the most part has been reaching out to me since then. What really got me is her breadcrumbs went from warm to hot and I really thought she wanted to hangout again. 2- times we talked about meeting up and both times something came up and she cancelled. So that's when I told her not to jerk me around. This princess doesn't like confrontation so I think that's why she has since scampered away. Will she send more breadcrumbs I don't know? The longest has been 2 1/2 weeks of silence from her. It's about 10 days now. So we'll see. I suspect if she's with another dude this game might be over. But who know's? But I'd like to end it on my terms not hers!
itto ogami Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 You end it on your terms with NO CONTACT. So you're already ahead - do not respond. Focus on yourself now. That's the only way to "win."
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