Accepted it's over

[theonlyjuan]

I think I have finally got it in my mind, that it is over.

 

For whatever reason, it didn't click for her and she doesn't love me.

I know it's not personal, you can't force love.

 

We are going to stay friends, until it gets weird for one of us.

 

She's a lot younger than me and has her life planned out already (Children etc )

I think we all thought like that when we were younger.

 

I totally understand where she was coming from, she has to do what she feels is right. She has every right to chase her dreams and find the right person.

 

Yeah, I am devastated it's not me but I wouldn't want to hold her back. She deserves to find the right man and I hope she does.

 

I just hope she doesn't get involved with the wrong men, end up jaded and loses hope of what she wants.

 

Life isn't perfect and doesn't always plan out the way we want. I learnt that ages ago and I am learning it again. She might learn that too but I hope she get's what she deserves.

 

I need to take some time to get to know myself again. I jumped into my relationship too fast after a previous. I need to learn not to be so desperate for love and companionship. I was too accommodating from the first day, I bought her treats and flowers, took her out etc

 

I feel I may have put her on a pedestal and she felt all I did for her was undeserved. It would probably give her a feeling of earning my affection and love without even doing anything. It may have scared her a bit and made her question her feelings too early.

 

Now I know I have things to work on. I need to concentrate on being the best person I can be now.

 

I still feel sad and think about things. I sometimes have to question myself on do I miss the relationship more than anything. Some of my friends think I fall in love too quick and with any girl that is interested.

 

I'm going to have good and bad days but hopefully time will make things better.

 

I know there is someone out there for me, and there is for all of you who read this.

It can be a long painful road, but we will all get there one day. We will all be happy and smiling again soon.

 

Thanks for letting me vent

[SimonSerenade]

Good for you mate, that's a very mature way to deal with this, I'm glad you found some peace with this, it's a hard thing to get passed when. You remember a time when they did love you and couldn't be without you.

 

You've been very honest with yourself and that is painful to accept, I thought for sure I was the one for my ex, breaks me in half to know I'm not by like you, I just want the best for her because to me she was the best, I just hope she doesn't go for the wrong guys or be the kind of person she never was and hopefully never will be.

 

Don't question yourself or beat yourself up on these things, be proud, you did these things because you wanted to see her smile and you did all that deserved or undeserved because you didn't expect the same back, that's a man for you right there, I wouldn't change or compromise that for anything, maybe it didn't take too well for her but there'll be somebody out there who will love and appreciate you for it, as long as your good at heart and your intensions are the same then you can't go far wrong, don't change that for anyone.

[totallylost5040]

Same situation man, i feel yah, keep venting if you need, its good for you.