Mike W Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 (edited) Hey guys, So I met a girl I had been chatting with for the first time last week. We met up for coffee and both had a great time chatting for almost 3 hours, great night. I drove her home afterward and gave her a hug. I asked her out again a couple of days later and I'm trying to think of a fun light-hearted date. So far I've been stumped but have considered: Mini Golf followed by ice cream and a walk in the park / feeding the ducks in the park. My emphasis here is on having a fun low-pressure date (it's tomorrow, Friday). Thoughts or suggestions? (Edit to add: I am 25 she is soon to be 24. I don't know if this matters but there it is.) Edited June 13, 2013 by Mike W 1
FlyerFan54 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I always go bowling for a 1st or 2nd date. It's laid back and a good time. It makes everything feel a lot more loose and the tension goes away when you are into the game. After, there's always a drink and a chat because of the mood being relaxed after something fun like that. Try it out!
Author Mike W Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 Thanks for the tip! My only concern with bowling, at least with two people, is that while one person is up the other is seated. Have you found that to be a conversation barrier?
Balzac Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Are you in a major urban city or more remote location?
Author Mike W Posted June 14, 2013 Author Posted June 14, 2013 Are you in a major urban city or more remote location? City, not colossal or anything but big enough to accommodate good ideas (if I had my own), ~150,000 people.
Titania22 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I love your second date idea. Sounds like fun!!! 1
Balzac Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 HaHa well said. Your idea sounded fine. Baseball game comes to mind. Bowling in my mind is a winter sport but I guess in truly hot weather it'd be an option. Art gallery gigs in the arts district often happen on a Friday night. I'm in a much larger city so it's a bit difficult to pitch ideas. Summer weekends are often filled w "festivals" that are easy going.
InsaneTrombone Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Go on and on about how good you are at golf, even if you suck. Then get behind her, hold her arms and show her the correct form of a swing . Make it a little competitive, let her win & don't make it obvious. I think your idea is perfect for what you're looking for. 2
CC12 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Do the things a tourist in your city might do. As locals, we sometimes forget that we have a museum with the World's Largest Ball of Earwax, or that we have the best hiking trails within 1000 miles, or that we have a somewhat decent art/music festival, or whatever. Those can be fun dates. Pretend you're not from your city and look up your local events calendar and if something looks fun or interesting, do that. 1
todreaminblue Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 art galleries museums...aquariums zoos..ginger factories...bee conventions..sigh ...ok a bit out there......somewhere where topics of conversation are easy to be had.....i think feeding the ducks in a park is a good idea....simple low key...and relaxing...sea gulls are more fun bossy things they are.....lol.....sea gulls are the hoods of the park.......seagulls have gangs with heirarchy they are fun to watch so are ibises...i get interested in sap from trees though...lol...i wish you luck.....the best of luck hope you have a fun second date.....deb 1
ThomasD Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Your ideas sound great to me. I'm partial to anything that gets you outdoors - walk in the park - street fairs - wander through the zoo - wife & I walk to the High School (about a mile) and watch the marching band practice (later in the summer) - or watch the girl's cross-country team practice (well, maybe not until it's YOUR kid on the team) - one evening we were stuck in Chicago with about $10 between us (long story) and we went "window shopping" along Michigan Avenue, at the stores we couldn't afford even if we had all the money we owned with us - When we were newlyweds and I was a grad student she would sometimes bring a picnic lunch to my office; there were a couple of fountains, statues, etc on campus where we liked to eat it. We had the whole cheesy outfit (a wedding present): wicker basket, checkered cloth, etc. If I was the one who assembled the meal before I left for the morning, the anticipation of wondering what I put in it would drive her crazy all morning. I wouldn't do anything (like a movie) where the activity itself consumes so much of your attention that you can't pay attention to each other. You probably know this, but don't let it deteriorate into a no-agenda "let's just hang out" event. Be open to her suggestions and ideas, but start with a plan of your own - even just "walk twice around the park, share an ice cream cone, and take her home" is fine. 1
CryForNoOne Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 art galleries museums...aquariums zoos..ginger factories...bee conventions..sigh ...ok a bit out there......somewhere where topics of conversation are easy to be had.....i think feeding the ducks in a park is a good idea....simple low key...and relaxing...sea gulls are more fun bossy things they are.....lol.....sea gulls are the hoods of the park.......seagulls have gangs with heirarchy they are fun to watch so are ibises...i get interested in sap from trees though...lol...i wish you luck.....the best of luck hope you have a fun second date.....deb Ironic that the women suggest art galleries, aquariums, zoos etc... The guys come up with mini golf, bowling, and baseball game. Although I'm very much into sports, almost none of my GFs have been at all so I've become quite accustomed to those being "boys" activities only. I would never think of taking a girl to a sporting event in the early dating phase unless she's was wearing a Packers jersey when I met her... 1
RedRobin Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Hey guys, So I met a girl I had been chatting with for the first time last week. We met up for coffee and both had a great time chatting for almost 3 hours, great night. I drove her home afterward and gave her a hug. I asked her out again a couple of days later and I'm trying to think of a fun light-hearted date. So far I've been stumped but have considered: Mini Golf followed by ice cream and a walk in the park / feeding the ducks in the park. My emphasis here is on having a fun low-pressure date (it's tomorrow, Friday). Thoughts or suggestions? (Edit to add: I am 25 she is soon to be 24. I don't know if this matters but there it is.) Your ideas sound great! I'd avoid anything to raucous or loud (maybe why the ladies don't go for the sporting events?) or as another poster said, avoid things where the main focus is not on each other or where conversation is difficult. One of my favorite early date events is rock climbing at a local rock gym or running/biking/hiking. Much more than coffee or dinner/drinks. That way, if things don't work out, at least I got my work out, lol. Museums, etc are all great too.
ThomasD Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 . . . unless she's was wearing a Packers jersey when I met her... I can just see the thread now: "GUYS! Should a Girl Wear Her Packers Jersey on the First Date?" Of course we need a counterpart from the male point of view, so the threads can run in parallel. Would it be: "What Would Girls Think of a Guy Who Wears a 'Save The Boobies' Sweatshirt on the First Date?" ? [ http://www.savetheboobiescny.com/ ]
Author Mike W Posted June 14, 2013 Author Posted June 14, 2013 Thank you very much for the insight ladies and gents. If all goes well I will be back with questions for #3! In fact, let's be optimistic and say all does go well, any advice for that? (Timeframe to wait, event, etc.) I have a tendency to plan and analyze these things in excess. Thanks!
ThomasD Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 . . . Did he tell you that he adores Steven Spielberg's works way too much? . . . Trinket gifts - no more than a couple dollars - can go a long way. During the summer I was with my first girlfriend (we were 18) we bought some paperback anthologies of Ray Bradbury short stories, talked about what we had read and traded the books back and forth every few days. (One of her favorites was "Medicine for Melancholy"; mine, "The Wilderness") Granted, not an activity that appeals to everyone but then I'm very attracted to brainy girls. "InsaneTrombone" has a thread running about "Kiss at the end of a first date?", which has touched on suitable ideas for the second (and subsequent) dates.
Author Mike W Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 Ok ladies and gents, the second date was a tremendous success, complete with first kiss(es)! Please bring on the advice so I don't pooch this thing!
Titania22 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Ok ladies and gents, the second date was a tremendous success, complete with first kiss(es)! Please bring on the advice so I don't pooch this thing! what did you end up doing?
Author Mike W Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 what did you end up doing? The plan was to start with mini golf, however, on arrival they were closed... I have no idea why, according to their hours they should have been open. Turns out there was a lake right there with ducks that I had no clue about so we went for a walk and fed the ducks there for a bit, then went to the actual park to feed those ducks, then we drove to the beach while the sun was setting
Titania22 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 The plan was to start with mini golf, however, on arrival they were closed... I have no idea why, according to their hours they should have been open. Turns out there was a lake right there with ducks that I had no clue about so we went for a walk and fed the ducks there for a bit, then went to the actual park to feed those ducks, then we drove to the beach while the sun was setting That's so cool, I haven't fed ducks since I was a kid. She was a lucky girl.
ThomasD Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 The plan was . . . Great recovery!! My advice is that you and this young lady should continue to become acquainted as you evaluate each other and decide where you want this relationship to go. See how simple it is? (I'll be away for a week or so but will look for updates on return. If you haven't done so - check out "InsaneTrombone's" thread on first-date kisses for some more ideas on dates for fledgling relationships.) 1
ThomasD Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 . . . complete with first kiss(es)!. . . Ummm . . . . just checking . . . . was this your first romantic kiss with a female girl person of the opposite sex? (And if so . . . would you admit it on a public forum like this?)
Author Mike W Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 Ummm . . . . just checking . . . . was this your first romantic kiss with a female girl person of the opposite sex? (And if so . . . would you admit it on a public forum like this?) No, it wasn't. Date #3 is scheduled for this Friday. I'm thinking afternoon picnic and an evening movie. I know an awesome location about 50 min away near the ocean, where I grew up. Thoughts?
RedRobin Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 No, it wasn't. Date #3 is scheduled for this Friday. I'm thinking afternoon picnic and an evening movie. I know an awesome location about 50 min away near the ocean, where I grew up. Thoughts? I'm not thrilled with movies on early dates... Unless it is one of those outside movies on a lawn while you are enjoying the picnic... those are fun and don't get in the way of conversation. 1
Author Mike W Posted June 18, 2013 Author Posted June 18, 2013 I'm not thrilled with movies on early dates... Unless it is one of those outside movies on a lawn while you are enjoying the picnic... those are fun and don't get in the way of conversation. Noted. I was hoping to make a day out of it. The picnic will bring us to mid-afternoon. Any evening ideas? I was also thinking about bringing a couple of flowers, is that too much? Maybe a few gerbera daisies. http://www.reginaflorist.com/weddingpics/Dsc08093.jpg
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