eastcoastgirl88 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 I didn't ask her out because women give me mixed messages. Some used to play games with my head. I remember one woman come to my work and play games with me. She flirted with me and I didn't have an interest in her. About 5 or 6 months later she asked me why I never asked her out. I told her that I didn't know if she was really interested. Besides I told her that I didn't have her number so she offered it to me. After days later I give her a call and she sounds all nervous and stuff. Then a few times I see her avoiding me by running away fast. I wasn't even trying to talk to her. Another woman flirted with me a lot and it was obvious to me she was interested but when I wanted to date her she turned all weird on me. She avoiding coming to my work like she used to but her room mates still came. Eventually they stop coming. Women have faded away from me too so don't think it's a men's thing. Your reasoning is that women have more to lose but I assure men do too. I remember one guy told me he no longer dates because her ex girlfriend took everything from his apartment while he was at work. More women are higher paying jobs with less risk. More and more lawyers are women. More and more pharmacist are women. Accounting women. Counselling women. More women are graduating from university than men meaning this will lead to higher paying jobs. Many women look beautiful all the time. In fact on the bus many women looked great. I don't like the idea going on a date where people wear clothes like they are going to a job interview or high function meeting. I prefer casual clothes. Btw guys can be called a player if he sleeps around. Men get judged if he dates much younger women but when older women date a younger guy there's very little judgement on her. The thing is you're making all kinds of excuses of why you won't be much effort. Btw I'm going out with a woman to get into pants I can do that just having FWB. I don't need to go out for that and it would be a lot less effort. Plenty of women call a guy an player or a@#$ if he leaves her when he put all the time, money and effort while she put every little other than sex. Trust me, it is a lot more damaging to a person's reputation to be called a "slut" or "easy." Men get praised for being players and dating younger women. That's what the entire Playboy franchise is about.
eastcoastgirl88 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Woman Used Match.com Dates For $1200 A Month In Free Dinners | The Mary Sue Btw I meet a lady going after free stuff and meals. She admitted later on using men to get things. Of course she didn't say using but that was she was doing playing games with people. I see this story being used OVER AND OVER by guys to demonstrate why they don't pay for girls. It's one isolated incident. Maybe us girls should get together and start a newspaper dedicated to all the men who were nice until they got us in bed? Oh wait. There aren't enough people in the universe to staff such a paper. Yet I'm STILL dating! Because I believe there are good ones out there!
Ripnet Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 I see this story being used OVER AND OVER by guys to demonstrate why they don't pay for girls. It's one isolated incident. Maybe us girls should get together and start a newspaper dedicated to all the men who were nice until they got us in bed? Oh wait. There aren't enough people in the universe to staff such a paper. Yet I'm STILL dating! Because I believe there are good ones out there! No it's not that's what you think.
Ripnet Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Trust me, it is a lot more damaging to a person's reputation to be called a "slut" or "easy." Men get praised for being players and dating younger women. That's what the entire Playboy franchise is about. Then don't have sex until marriage. It really isn't that hard. Btw men aren't praised for being a player like you think. The movies isn't real btw. Playboy franchise?? Last time I checked women get paid to get naked and they make a lot of money. You will never get it.
eastcoastgirl88 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Then don't have sex until marriage. It really isn't that hard. Btw men aren't praised for being a player like you think. The movies isn't real btw. Playboy franchise?? Last time I checked women get paid to get naked and they make a lot of money. You will never get it. I'm just trying to understand where you're coming from. What is your ideal world? Take me through dating, marriage, kids, etc.
Ripnet Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 I suggest you read these two books, it should be an eye opener for both sexes. I don't want kids or marriage. All I know is that eventually I want to go out with women again. I don't see marriage or kids in the future. It's incredibly hard to find someone suitable to love you for you not for something you can give them something. Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say: Destroying Myths, Creating Love: Warren Farrell: 9781585420612: Amazon.com: Books Why Men Are the Way They Are: Warren Farrell: 9780425110942: Amazon.com: Books 1
therhythm Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 (edited) I see this story being used OVER AND OVER by guys to demonstrate why they don't pay for girls. It's one isolated incident. Maybe us girls should get together and start a newspaper dedicated to all the men who were nice until they got us in bed? Oh wait. There aren't enough people in the universe to staff such a paper. Yet I'm STILL dating! Because I believe there are good ones out there! I am not defending any of the two sides in this argument (silly if you allow me) but you probably don't guarantee sex in every first date right? Then I guess you can't make the quoted point and make it comparable with the paying for the first date (as we men have to do it in the first date;) ) Edited June 15, 2013 by therhythm
eastcoastgirl88 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 I will definitely read those two books! Awesome suggestions. Already reading the reviews now. I'm always interested and FASCINATED by how men think. Now, inspired by Farrell's "Q&A" format, I am going to start a new thread answering questions about how women think and why we do the things we do. Please join me over there for some enlightening discussion!
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