furnished Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I met a guy of the interweb for a first-date coffee at the weekend and we agreed to see each other again. A couple of days later he texted around dinner time to say he could hang out later that night (after 8.30pm). I had plans and suggested we try for Thursday instead. His response: maybe, depending on how much work he got through. I've got a busy life and suggested we make plans for some time when he knew he would be free as I often need to plan ahead to fit people in. This was several days ago and I haven't heard back from him (and now don't expect to). Basically, I thought it was kinda rude to expect I'd keep the day free in case he was available. My questions: He chooses to do a lot of his work in the evenings so was I being unreasonable in wanting him to pin an evening down? Am I being too up-tight in expecting a guy to organise a date in advance? Or is a couple of hours beforehand okay? For a second date I kinda like a bit of warning to make sure my hair is clean, I'm looking nice, not tired from the night before and don't have to gobble my dinner down! What about you?
SJC2008 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I met a guy of the interweb for a first-date coffee at the weekend and we agreed to see each other again. A couple of days later he texted around dinner time to say he could hang out later that night (after 8.30pm). I had plans and suggested we try for Thursday instead. His response: maybe, depending on how much work he got through. I've got a busy life and suggested we make plans for some time when he knew he would be free as I often need to plan ahead to fit people in. This was several days ago and I haven't heard back from him (and now don't expect to). Basically, I thought it was kinda rude to expect I'd keep the day free in case he was available. My questions: He chooses to do a lot of his work in the evenings so was I being unreasonable in wanting him to pin an evening down? Am I being too up-tight in expecting a guy to organise a date in advance? Or is a couple of hours beforehand okay? For a second date I kinda like a bit of warning to make sure my hair is clean, I'm looking nice, not tired from the night before and don't have to gobble my dinner down! What about you? What was your response after he texted back mabye?
starrynightz45 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I think you're totally fine. It's strange and annoying to make last minute, on the fly plans like that. I know I wouldn't like it. I think you have every right to want to plan a date a few days ahead of time - that's not demanding or uptight. It's pretty standard and normal for people with jobs, bills, and a daily schedule to keep up with. He's strange for not responding just because you wanted to arrange a set day/time to meet.
Author furnished Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 After he said maybe I wrote back: "well, let's make plans for some time when you know you'll be free I've got a lot on so usually need to plan ahead to fit people in." And I got no response after that.
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