amkxoxo Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Seeing a guy 3 months in person and now one month long distance. He has a friend who is a girl. He knew her in high school and now were in college. She came to visit him this semester and I was a bit jealous. I got to briefly meet her and later on he told me that he was so glad they ran into me so she could meet me. This eased my mind a lot and I trust him of course. She apparently is very musical and she helps him with his music. After she left this semester he told me that she used to have a crush on him and he still thinks she does. This immediately sparked my interest. He said that she visited him at college a year ago and attempted to make a move on him. He told her he wasn't interested and he still isn't until this day. She didn't talk to him for a year because of it. Since being home he has been hanging out with her and I still truly believe he doesn't like her. She puts stuff on his facebook all the time and he won't like it or comment on it. I think she definitely still likes him and she uses her helping him with his music to her advantage to spend time with him. I'm a girl I know how they think and I don't like her. I hate that he has her as a friend and I'm super jealous. I don't think he knows I feel this way, maybe just a bit. How to deal with your guys friend thats a girl???
InsaneTrombone Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Sounds like a good guy who has gone out of his way to try and make you feel comfortable about it. Don't worry about it, if there was something going on you wouldn't have known about her.
Zio Corda Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 He probably loves the attention and may actually keep her around to make other girls (like yourself) jealous. Because if he really doesn't want that kind of attention from her he would make that VERY clear and if she kept at it, he'd cut contact. You should tell him how you feel. It might end your relationship, but not telling him is eating away at you and your relationship anyway.
Author amkxoxo Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 Like he told me that a year ago when he turned her down and explained to her that he doesn't have feelings for her, he really wanted to just be her friend. I think he has had to turn her down more than once. He said she couldn't just be friends and she left asap and didn't talk to him for a year. I'm just insecure because she is always around him and he is having a hard time at home and I can't be there. He tweets her sometimes (but always refers to her as a friend) but when she posts on facebook he never replies or likes it. I know they text too. He told me that a group of people were suppose to go to the beach one day and some of them canceled and it ended up just being the two of them. When I told him my distaste of "I think she still has a thing for you" he said "because we went to the beach??" So I think she's a friend I just don't like her because I think she has alterior motives and he doesn't see it.
Carenth Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 This relationship is dead and has been for some time (go read other threads). OP is desperately trying to grasp at straws that he still cares about her when he exited emotionally long ago. Please stop torturing yourself over this guy and move on, it's really sad to watch. He has proven to you he is a liar, he has even told you this and he doesn't care about you. Stop making more threads looking for someone to tell you that he loves you, you aren't going to get the answer you are looking for.
Recommended Posts