frostythesnowman Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 How often do y'all dream of your ex? For me, at least in the past couple weeks, its been almost every time I sleep. I just woke up from a 30 minute nap and was dreaming where my ex was lying in bed with me, everything felt perfect. It didn't even feel like I dream because I was so in control. And then all of a sudden, my phone rang and I woke up. It was a god awful feeling, because it was almost as if I had just been actually with her. It felt so real. I'm missing her a lot right now just because of this, and it sucks because its completely out of my control. How often does this happen to you guys, what do you do to fight the awful empty feeling you get right after you wake up, and how long does it stay so consistent? 3
SimonSerenade Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 That feeling stays for hours on end, like you, I dream about her and I wake up feeling and overbearing sadness, when I woke up this morning I felt awful, in my dream we were together and we weren't even doing anything, just sort of lay there in bed side by side smiling, I've dreamt about her the last few nights, it doesn't get easier but if I have something to do like work or go shopping or whatever, I make my mind go blank, just literally don't think about anything, until I think I see her and then my heart falls into my stomach again.
Author frostythesnowman Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 That feeling stays for hours on end, like you, I dream about her and I wake up feeling and overbearing sadness, when I woke up this morning I felt awful, in my dream we were together and we weren't even doing anything, just sort of lay there in bed side by side smiling, I've dreamt about her the last few nights, it doesn't get easier but if I have something to do like work or go shopping or whatever, I make my mind go blank, just literally don't think about anything, until I think I see her and then my heart falls into my stomach again. It sucks because it is completely out of our control. That overbearing sadness makes you think about the good times, because that's exactly what you're having in the dream, even if its not really doing anything. Wish there was a way to control dreams to avoid the pain when waking up
SimonSerenade Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Yeah it hits you hard dream or not, the reality is there gone and there's nothing you can do about it, it's just something that's out of our control and out of our hands, I think the scary thing is never knowing when it's going to end, every morning is a start to another day you just can't take. 1
jabbzy64 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Yeah it hits you hard dream or not, the reality is there gone and there's nothing you can do about it, it's just something that's out of our control and out of our hands, I think the scary thing is never knowing when it's going to end, every morning is a start to another day you just can't take. Mornings are very hard for me... she used to be there when I woke up... Now all I have are dreams... it's literally heartbreaking
SimonSerenade Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I'm with you, my regret is that I didn't get more nights with her, I loved waking up to her face, especially Christmas morning, she made it a Christmas worth having and when I get up and walk downstairs, it's just not the same anymore, I thought I missed her a lot when i was with her, this is excrutiatingly, at least I have her in my dreams, it's better than nothing as much as it hurts.
SweetiePie12 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 what do you do to fight the awful empty feeling you get right after you wake up ...actually, I love dreaming about him. It makes me feel close.
MusicgirlE Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I know exactly how you are feeling. My ex and I broke up about 2.5 weeks ago, and at first I was so angry, that I didn't have any dreams about him, but recently I've had dreams of him contacting me and wanting to get back together. I've also had dreams of previous exes, which is a bit weird, but I guess it's because I've been reflecting on past relationships recently. I wake up feeling exactly like you do. Automatically I check my phone to see if I got a text from him (sad, I know). I'm hoping the dreams go away soon, but at the same time I want them to stay, since I like seeing his face, and hearing his voice
Author frostythesnowman Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 ...actually, I love dreaming about him. It makes me feel close. The dreaming part is nice. It's just the part when you wake up and realize its not real that sucks. Sometimes the feeling is different though, I guess it really depends on the dream
undergroundlife13 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Ive had countless dreams about him and every freaking time they are about him wanting me back, and I cry of happiness. Then i wake up :/ Half the time I am not even thinking of him before I sleep its my subconcious bull**** :/ I definitely feel for you. its like torture
SweetiePie12 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 The dreaming part is nice. It's just the part when you wake up and realize its not real that sucks. I know, but I think of it as a premonition, and an experience on a subconscious/spiritual level. Especially when I dream of him out of the blue, not even thinking of him. My friend agrees that means he's thinking of me.
undergroundlife13 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I know, but I think of it as a premonition, and an experience on a subconscious/spiritual level. Especially when I dream of him out of the blue, not even thinking of him. My friend agrees that means he's thinking of me. Ive had this thought too, i guess its just wishful thinking though
CorridorE Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 For about the first month after the BU I dreamed of him every night without fail. It was absolutely horrible. Over the past 3 months... he shows up in a dream once every two or so weeks. The pain of waking up from them has become less and less over time. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I know, but I think of it as a premonition, and an experience on a subconscious/spiritual level. Especially when I dream of him out of the blue, not even thinking of him. My friend agrees that means he's thinking of me. And you believe this? I have dreams where ex-girlfriends from over a decade ago appear. I'm pretty sure it does not mean that those exes are thinking of me.
SweetiePie12 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Ive had this thought too, i guess its just wishful thinking though Maybe, maybe not...
Author frostythesnowman Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 Happened again last night. Absolutely sucks. Luckily didn't have as vivid of a memory of what it was when I woke up so it wasn't as hard
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I'm just over a year post BU, after 8 years together. In the beginning I dreampt of her constantly, a year later? Not so much. Believe me, the dreams WILL fade out to almost nothing. Just takes time. I can't recall the last time I dreampt of her, odd since I seem to spend so much time thinking of her still. Fact is, she is gone. Not coming back, ever. The one thing I wonder is: Does she ever dream of me? Doubt it.
crederer Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I have them all the time. It feels real. Then I wake up. it sucks.
Sneaky Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Okay I'm having these constantly lately. It sucks so bad to dream about being back together or just seeing her and then you wake up and there is just nothing but an empty feeling...
aloneinaz Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Odd, in 2 1/2 weeks since the end, not one dream. Of course, I'm lucky in that my ex showed her true colors towards the last quarter and especially the last two months. i guess my brain doesn't want to miss or dream about an angry, selfish, temperamental, moody, nasty woman, in my dreams. I'm grateful that things weren't great when it ended. It would have made it a lot harder.
hotpotato Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 I know, but I think of it as a premonition, and an experience on a subconscious/spiritual level. Especially when I dream of him out of the blue, not even thinking of him. My friend agrees that means he's thinking of me. Thats a really wonderful way to think of it. Anywayz, I have been dreaming about my ex. I've dreamed about guys in the past before, but not like this. This morning I dreamed of him and woke up shaking. I feel like a druggie with dt's. Maybe if this happens enough I can get him out of my system.
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