Dundas Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Ex girlfriend of 2.5 years dumped me for someone else 2 months ago. After about a month of begging, I've been in full no contact (other than seeing her for a few minutes a week when she relieves my shift and the occasional text message dealing with work and scheduling). Even when seeing her, I try to keep it work-only and don't bring much up other than that anymore. I've started talking to other girls, and other than the sexual thrill I get, they just don't compare to my ex. I miss her so much. Staying no contact is very hard - but once you get used to it, I think breaking no contact is even harder. It's not that I don't want to, but it's because I'm protecting myself. I know if I break contact for anything other than what is necessary, I'm only hurting myself and slowing down my progress. Which do you think is harder?
aloneinaz Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Ex girlfriend of 2.5 years dumped me for someone else 2 months ago. After about a month of begging, I've been in full no contact (other than seeing her for a few minutes a week when she relieves my shift and the occasional text message dealing with work and scheduling). Even when seeing her, I try to keep it work-only and don't bring much up other than that anymore. I've started talking to other girls, and other than the sexual thrill I get, they just don't compare to my ex. I miss her so much. Staying no contact is very hard - but once you get used to it, I think breaking no contact is even harder. It's not that I don't want to, but it's because I'm protecting myself. I know if I break contact for anything other than what is necessary, I'm only hurting myself and slowing down my progress. Which do you think is harder? Honestly, in your case you don't have any other option. She left you for another guy. You admittedly begged afterward but what's left to say? Time and the meeting the right girl will make you forget all about this one. If anything, you should be pissed and say screw her, she left me for another guy.
Author Dundas Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 (edited) I am pretty pissed still, I don't hate her, she never gave me a reason not to trust her before this - but the way she went about it... hanging out with her brother's friends and inviting me along, only to dump me for one of the guys we were hanging out with - that was cruel. She made a fool out of me, and all of them knew what was going on, from the moment I met them and thought they were 'our friends.' Then I made an even bigger fool of myself after constantly pleading with her. After we broke up, I was extremely depressed and even told her a secret from my past that I'd always kept from people. I told her I had to get it off my chest before I could move on, and that I was telling her because I knew I could still trust her. Even though it was like a weight off my chest, now I know I can no longer trust her, and I wouldn't doubt she told her new boyfriend right away. I hope she didn't, but I guess I'll never know. Right now I'm just working on myself and making new 'friends', becoming much happier now that I'm getting her out of my system. It's still hard because we were basically attached at the hip, but time heals all wounds. I now believe the relationship had to end because I was so attached... but the way she treated me was selfish and cold. Edited June 12, 2013 by Dundas
forgetmenot75 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Hello dundas, I'll tell you what's harder: break NC. Because once you break it, you loose all the work you've done so far, and you have to start from zero plus even more hurt than before. Stay NC, move on.
SimonSerenade Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Talking to her is harder because your never going to get the response you wanted when you react out and that's a killer for just about every single part of you.
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