rricardo35 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 For people that don't know, I split with my fiance because she wants space etc whatever. She has twins, boy and a girl from her ex. We were together 2 yrs. When I move out I told them a story I needed to go take care of my mother. They were so sad. They just called me and this is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. My ex, I can move on and be strong, but just hearing their voices, telling me they love me and come home soon. I burst into tears and made a story of how sad I am for my mom. This isn't fair. I can't even tell if I am making sense because i am crying so hard.
TaraMaiden Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Shame you lied. They deserve to know the truth, really. because your Mom can't be ill for ever. She broke up with you. tell them the truth, in simple ways. They're her kids - she's going to have to be honest with them. Why should she get off so easy? She has to face her responsibilities - why should you ease up on her because she ditched this? 1
Author rricardo35 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 I agree but they are innocent. Just shows how selfish she really is. This fuels my healing to be away from her, but i really love hearing their voices. They believe I'm coming home.
TaraMaiden Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Yes, they're innocent. But they don't deserve to have that innocence shattered by the discovery that they've been lied to. By both of you. Good message there..... 1
Author rricardo35 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 I had this conversation with her before I left. I'm not fighting with her. Im just going to vanish.
todreaminblue Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I had this conversation with her before I left. I'm not fighting with her. Im just going to vanish. I think it is really unfair on the kids........they need closure.......the mum should know this......they are "waiting " for you........maybe they here a car turn the corner and think its you, they look expectantly down the road hopeful smiles on their face till the car goes past...its not you......and the smiles on their faces fade into disappointment and sadness...horrible....talk to the mum convince her to do the right by her kids and all of you....it must be hard on you, i feel fro you and the kids, a really bad situation to put you and them in.......try to talk to the mum again...and have some closure.....for you ...for them...and for her......i wish you the best.....deb
Balzac Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Whether you agree with her parenting decisions or not, she's the parent. Her kids have her and only her to rely on. Unfortunately we cannot choose our parents. I feel your pain but it's unwise to accept these calls from her children. By accepting their calls you are causing the children to extend her delusion.
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