starlet86 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I broke NC because I was feeling really low about things and texted my ex (who up until today has texted me every single day since we broke up 2 months ago and who told me he isn't over me last night) saying, "i miss you" and he didn't reply and do you know what, it made me feel 10x worse than I already was. I don't understand why we turn to the people who have hurt his for comfort when we are feeling particularly low. I think somewhere I thought he might actually acknowledge what I had said, although I now realise that was stupid. I just wanted him to be there for me, the way I am always there for him. I helped him get the money together to buy a bloody house, it stings like hell when he can't even acknowledge a text message from me and makes me feel like I was nothing more than a foot hold to him getting what he wanted, now he has it he has no need for me any more so anything I am thinking or feeling is insignificant. I just want to be over him!
Simon Phoenix Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I broke NC because I was feeling really low about things and texted my ex (who up until today has texted me every single day since we broke up 2 months ago and who told me he isn't over me last night) saying, "i miss you" and he didn't reply and do you know what, it made me feel 10x worse than I already was. I don't understand why we turn to the people who have hurt his for comfort when we are feeling particularly low. I think somewhere I thought he might actually acknowledge what I had said, although I now realise that was stupid. I just wanted him to be there for me, the way I am always there for him. I helped him get the money together to buy a bloody house, it stings like hell when he can't even acknowledge a text message from me and makes me feel like I was nothing more than a foot hold to him getting what he wanted, now he has it he has no need for me any more so anything I am thinking or feeling is insignificant. I just want to be over him! Didn't you just tell him to leave you alone so you can let him go? And then you do this? I mean, are you trying to sabotage yourself?
totallylost5040 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Stop contacting him and move on with your life... .if he contacts you go ahead and respond.... we all know the feeling... here are some tips... write down some goals that you've been wanting to do and work towards those, it'll give you a feeling of self fulfillment again :-)
SimonSerenade Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 You contact them because their the only ones who can help you out of this at that moment in time, last time I contacted my ex was out of desperation because I had been given bad medical news, I had nobody to turn to and the thing is, they don't want to know, doesn't matter who your ex is, they're all the same for the most part, it hurts but you have to stay out of their way. I loved my ex and I'm not contacting her because I don't want to or because I'm in the no contact method, I'm doing it because somewhere deep down I respect her and respect what she wants, even if it kills me, she doesn't want me around and I have to respect that, I get desperate sometimes and i really want to call her or message her or whatever and find out what went wrong, get an explanation, put my mind at ease but I won't because regardless of wether I understand the situation I have to do what's best for her and stay away. It's hard because their the ones who can take the pain away and their the ones who took your pride and your dignity, of course your going to feel worthless, they decided they don't want you, it's human nature, you just got to hold yourself together the best you can and carry on. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Stop contacting him and move on with your life... .if he contacts you go ahead and respond.... we all know the feeling... here are some tips... write down some goals that you've been wanting to do and work towards those, it'll give you a feeling of self fulfillment again :-) That's not going to help either.
aloneinaz Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I don't think in many instances that people get dumped because the dumper simply lost interest or love of them. I think in some cases, the dumpee's figured out the dumpers insecurities and the dumpers didn't like it at all. I know in my case, my ex knew she needed to make some changes in her people skills and interactions w/those close to her. She knew I had her read 100% and knew her games, grudges, etc.. I think it wore on her and she's wasn't willing to change (and I wasn't willing to let her talk to me the way she did when stressed) and it ended. A lot of people state that it sucks for a couple of months (or more) when you break up but once your over it, you look back and say WTF was I thinking dating/seeing her and putting up with her BS for so long. I have no doubt I will be the same as I already am now..
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