chioj36 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I'm in love with my boyfriend, and I miss my ex like hell and he told me he misses me. Go figure. I've been dating my boyfriend for 9 months. He's a great boyfriend. He's handsome and very loving. Comes from a good family. However- He has a very heavy pot smoking dependency for anxiety and he lives off of an SSI -- facts that I accept about him, but not for my future husband. My ex is a hard working guy, very serious about his life and intellectually, him and I connect on a very deep level (which made it very hard to leave him when the going got bad and he couldn't commit to the relationship.). We have always loved each other but it's always been impossible to stay together. But we still contact each other and sort of need each other mentally. When we talk though... the feelings always resurface. I don't want to **** up my current relationship -- and I want to leave it at the same time because I feel like it is holding me back from pushing myself and growing into someone I want to be -- my full potential as a woman. I'm comfortable right now, and every time I speak to my ex, all of my desires I had for my life (and my life with him) come back, and I feel inspired yet so depressed. Maybe I should leave and stay away from both of them for a while, I do not know. I do not want to break my boyfriends heart. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
dizy Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I can understand how you feel. Your ex doesn't only represent your past relationship but also your past experience. And since it didn't end badly, it's normal that your feelings for him come back. Maybe listing benefits and drawbacks of getting back/or not with your ex on a piece of paper will help you see things through a more rational perspective. There were reasons for which you guys break up. What were they? Are they still there? and There were reasons for which you fell in love with your current bf, what are they?
MrRightNow Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Yes, dump them both. I don't think you should waste any more of your current bf's time if you know he's not right for you. And getting back with an ex is never a good idea.
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