Earth Angel Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I recently within the week was dumped by my ex girlfriend. We had several breaks during our 9mo relationship. Anyways, she dumped me and within a week is back with her ex who is going through a divorce. They have been best friends since they dated in the 90's. Both are rebounding and both live in different states. Do you think this will work out? As of yesterday she said she loves me and is confused. Then she said today she is done and moving forward (was really negative towards me). Should I just NC and see what happens?
Fun2BMe Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 So called rebound relationships do in fact work out in many cases. Your ex will not knowingly transfer the love she had for you onto him, so the relationship progresses very fast and intensely. If he's rebounding too then he'll love her quickly too, after all after hating on the ex they have to transfer the love feelings somewhere. I think if you maintain NC during this crucial time knowing there's someone else, you might risk losing her. You might have to fight for her right now.
forgetmenot75 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 You should stay NC. You don't want to know whether this relationship with her ex works or not. Non of your business. Stay nc and move on.
forgetmenot75 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 So called rebound relationships do in fact work out in many cases. Your ex will not knowingly transfer the love she had for you onto him, so the relationship progresses very fast and intensely. If he's rebounding too then he'll love her quickly too, after all after hating on the ex they have to transfer the love feelings somewhere. I think if you maintain NC during this crucial time knowing there's someone else, you might risk losing her. You might have to fight for her right now. ups. What? I'm speechless.
Fun2BMe Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 You have to tell her stuff like her ex is no good for her otherwise he would have ended up marrying her not someone else, that she is meant to be with you. It's a good sign she's saying she's confused, means she is still considering you and has feelings. Why sit back and let the other guy make all the moves? A divorce makes a guy needy and clingy, your ex will just get flattered by all the attention.
Author Earth Angel Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 I feel bad I was not attentive to her towards the end of the relationship due to the arguing. She was dumped badly by this person years ago so she is scared. I just miss her. I am sure I will get past this.
tinker683 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 This sounds like a 10 car pile up waiting to happen. Oh sure, the honeymoon phase will be great but at some point in time both of them are going to actually have to start to process and work through their previous baggage and that will either go very well....or horribly, screamingly BADLY
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