Lucky rebel Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 My ex has broken nc today. He began seeing a new girl a week after he and I split up. We kept NC for two weeks, but he text once I removed him from social networking. I had meant to do it sooner, but after the initial break up I couldn't face logging onto Fb. It was through that I found out about his new romance, and after seeing that, I couldn't log on again for another week. Once I had found out about his new relationship, I still kept NC, despite my emotions trying to get the best of me. He contacted me and when I didn't reply to texts, started calling. He said he wanted to remain friends. I didn't think that was a good idea, so said no. Would rather go NC than see him move on so quickly. When I spoke to him (which was stupid and made me feel worse) he told me about this new girl. He said he could see a future with her and that she was really nice. That broke me, but I wasn't going to let him know that. We ended the conversation and he told me he wouldn't contact me. he text today saying he hoped I was ok, I didn't reply and he hasn't tried again. I don't know why he text, as he knows I don't want to be his friend. Was he just trying to see if I was still around? Still pining? Unfortunately after knowing him, I can't really believe it was out of genuine courtesy. Guy won't even call his mum on Mother's Day without prompting. A few hours later and I couldn't help a look on his Fb.i have been very good, but was curious. He doesn't keep it on private, so everything can be seen by anyone. I saw a post on his wall, talking to his new gf about the future. Everything he was talking about was what we had planned. The holiday, the house and even the baby name. But the whole thing got me thinking.... Do some people have an ideal dream life, and simply change the partner? Everything that was mentioned was our plan. It hurt, as it made what we had seem less special. It all seems very quick to me, but that may be my pride talking. Anyway, I will never go onto his Fb page again, and I am so glad I have kept my NC. To anyone struggling with it, keep strong. It hurts so much more when your fears are realised.
hotpotato Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Its all great in the beginning! These kinds of relationships often pick up where the previous one left off. It doesnt mean they will be successful long term. Important thing is maintain nc. It may be best to stay off his fb. I know its easier said than done! 1
candie13 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 like, he gets a new gf a week after he breaks up with you, then two weeks later, he writes on her fb page about... holidays, babies and a future? it's one of the two - he's either been seeing her since a lot longer, meaning he cheated while you two were together - or he simply is delusional. who writes those things to a girl he barely met? Speaking of high standards and unmet expectations. OMG!!! OP, block the guy. He's the definition of bad news and is dying to get a reaction from you. Block him and go NC 100%. You'll feel better soon, that's for sure!!! 1
Author Lucky rebel Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 Thank you so much for your messages. I haven't been on here long, but so far all advice, even on other threads has been excellent. I will follow your advice, will stick to NC and block him on Fb etc.... I'm just sick of mind games, of hurting and not knowing what is going on!
starlet86 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 He's caught up in the moment with this girl. He's probably trying to make her in to you. I smell rebound. 1
flitzanu Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 if you are avoiding your ex, YOU are the one in NC, not your ex. they aren't breaking anything. 1
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