SimonSerenade Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 So before my relationship ended my ex mentioned this guy at work who's a total crap stiring ass! That he said I had a pof dating account and that his friend came across it, obviously he was trying to turn her against me, for what reason I don't know, i knew I didn't have one, I had one for a little while before my ex came along and then I deleted it, I hated the thing!, anyway my sisters on there and she just rang me and said "why didn't you tell me you were on pof?, I'd of set you up with someone", I was confused and sure as hell I didn't have one, turns out I forgot about one I created after the break up I had 3 years a go, I was gob smacked and couldn't believe I forgot about it!, now I'm worried she saw it and thought I was lying about it, I've deleted it now, I had 1 picture on there and no biography or anything like that on it, I pride myself on being honest, I don't want to talk to her but i don't want her to think I'm lying, should I try to tell her or do what I'm thinking right now and care less about it?
avelonia2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I wouldn't do a darn thing if I were you. Everyone has one of those old accounts from one time or another and if someone judges on that then they aren't worth your time and energy anyway. Plus, it's probably obvious you haven't used it in three years. It doesn't sound like this girl is being honest with you to begin with and might just be looking for excuses to yank your heart around for her own pleasure. Do you really want to be with someone like that anyway? Stay NC and let yourself heal. This girl doesn't sound like she's worth the effort. On a side note, I heard through the grapevine that POF is loaded with a bunch of married people looking for hook ups outside of their marriage. I wouldn't touch that site if someone paid me to. Yuck! If you are really looking for a decent person to meet, the paid sites with good long standing reputations are the better way to go. For me personally, online dating scares the heck out of me and I don't have the guts to try it...lol.
Author SimonSerenade Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 Thanks for the reply, it was pretty much the same thing I was thinking, my picture was old as time, I always worried if I left any websites far behind, even websites I was on years and years and years a go, at one point she even found something I posted at a point when I was out of work and I was with my ex asking for advice, for some reason she had a problem with that so in contrast a 3 year old pof account I never used is a BIG deal, stupid I know. Towards the end of the relationship that's all she seemed to Want to do so it's hard to put anything passed her anymore, plus at times she was a pathological liar, she was so good she started believing her own lies. I really don't want to be with her anymore, too many times too often people think the only way to resolve their problems is to break up and she was one of those people, I just don't want to put myself through her doubts anymore but I figured if I told her about this, it would be one less thing she can think of hating me for. I noticed pof was bad the last time I was properly on it, either people were looking for INSTANT commitment or just a good time, I know most guys are on there to trick women, it makes me sick to my stomach how something good is used for something bad like that, it's just something that I couldn't do yet I feel my ex would think I'm capable of something like that, probably why i was tempted to speak up, I only met one woman on there and she was really nice, thought a lot of me and made me feel really good about myself, it never went anywhere short of a kiss on the cheek and it never had the chance to because i got with my ex instead, starting to think I walked down the wrong road.
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