FrustratedGuy91 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I'll try'n make it super short. Girl I was FWB with, it started to get more friends than benefits. So I stepped back a bit (I also had finals at my college). We went out tonight, movies at my place, some wine.. but nothing happened so when I was dropping her by I finally told her. Now, before I go on on what I told her, a little note. The friends part was really good, we have a ton in common, same taste, ideals, beliefs, humor, etc. Anyway, I pretty much told her that I thought it was best if we didn't saw each other for a time, because we weren't seeing eye to eye. I don't wanna be in the friend zone, and I thought I was clear about it. Another note related to her answer: She had told me months ago that she was bi-sexual but never had the chance to intimate with other women, I didn't make anything of it because we ended up making out shortly after. As we went on she told me about a few failed dates she had, but we still kept up. So when I told her today about being gradually friendzoned, she told me it was because she was exploring that part of her. In retrospective, she did mention that same night she was seeing some girls, but nothing serious. Anyway, she told me she wouldn't ask me out to hang out and stuff, and that whenever I wanted we could hang out as always (Always being just friends). We agreed that we wouldn't just cut off all contact and that was pretty much it. We also agreed that we had a great time and we both considered each other among the few people with whom you can really talk about anything. I didn't mention that I was starting to develop feelings for her, mostly because I thought it wouldn't change anything. Did I do what was best? At least for me? I mean there's not much I can do about it, and while I'll miss her company (even as a friend) I didn't want just friendship, and she needs to pursue what she thinks is best for her, right?
happywithlife Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I think you did the right thing. If you were developing feelings, stronger than just friendship, for her and she is not developing similar feelings, stepping back will benefit both of you. You can focus on yourself and dating other people who will have reciprocal feelings towards you.
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