KungFuJoe Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I haven't had any crazy date stories, but worst date I ever went on was a friend of a friend who "vouched" for her...said she was cute, etc. I had communicated with the girl directly over email, where she described herself, but had never seen her. I show up to pick her up and she is NOT at all what I expected. Not to sound shallow, but she just was NOT attractive...and her description could have not have been further from the truth. But, I figured what the hell, I'm here...let's just grab something to eat and make the most of it. Well...the conversation was pretty awkward...you could tell she was very self conscious and she kept saying to me, "I'm not what you expected am I?" followed by long bouts of silence. Now, I did have slight anxiety back then and uncomfortable one on one conversations were akin to putting hot pokers in my eye and it just got to a point where I could not bear it any longer. So I did the classic "fake an emergency call from work" told her I was sorry and had to run and that was that.
KatZee Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I think you're right, OLD isn't for me. I just got a super sleazy and weird feeling and then I felt like a fool for trying to make conversation when there was none to be had. I feel the same way. OLD creeps me out for some reason. I feel there's such a forced phoniness behind it, and most guys on there are off on so many levels. Either secretly in relationships, just looking to be laid, creepy, anti-social, or they show up looking NOTHING like what their picture looked like, weirdos... etc etc. People need to turn the electronics off and get out into the real world. Seriously. 1
CarrieT Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 CC, online dating is work, plain and simple. I went through almost three years of online dating - which ultimately meant that I was have online conversations with HUNDREDS of potential guys and did the coffee/meet-and-greet with over FIFTY of them. Yep. I easily met 50 different guys in the hopes of finding "the one." And - believe me - most of them were beyond creepy. Some were decent but there was no spark. A few needed to be institutionalized. But I persevered and ultimately, I found a great guy. In fact, we are engaged. I tried the Meetup thing and club-joining, but - for me - it took online dating to find the guy of my dreams. BTW, I am 49 years old and have been around the block a few times. But I wanted you to know that it IS possible, but is not easy. It is a matter of how you look at it, what you want in the process, and how much you are willing to put up with to find someone. 2
Zahara Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 That's awesome! I might try a singles event if I can get the courage to do it. Yes! I've done this twice. Intimidating the first time walking in on my own but once you do it, you'll ge the hang of it. The first time is always the hardest. And if you don't like it you can always leave! Just as Katz mentioned, met some nice ladies who were actually in awe of me walking in alone and had a nice night out. Gave me a boost of self-confidence and I can't even tell you how many times men and women actually walked up to get to know me. Yep, OLD is a sleavy meat market. Been of that for awhile. I've met some nice people on meetup, enjoy the activities and every now and then I'll put those heels on and hit me a singles event! 3
Author CulturallyConfused Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 CC, online dating is work, plain and simple. And - believe me - most of them were beyond creepy. Some were decent but there was no spark. A few needed to be institutionalized. But I persevered and ultimately, I found a great guy. In fact, we are engaged. LOLOLOL You're so right, it is work. And I'm so glad you got the right reward for it. :love: 1
Author CulturallyConfused Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 I haven't had any crazy date stories, but worst date I ever went on was a friend of a friend who "vouched" for her...said she was cute, etc. I had communicated with the girl directly over email, where she described herself, but had never seen her. I show up to pick her up and she is NOT at all what I expected. Not to sound shallow, but she just was NOT attractive...and her description could have not have been further from the truth. But, I figured what the hell, I'm here...let's just grab something to eat and make the most of it. Well...the conversation was pretty awkward...you could tell she was very self conscious and she kept saying to me, "I'm not what you expected am I?" followed by long bouts of silence. Now, I did have slight anxiety back then and uncomfortable one on one conversations were akin to putting hot pokers in my eye and it just got to a point where I could not bear it any longer. So I did the classic "fake an emergency call from work" told her I was sorry and had to run and that was that. You know I actually put a ton of pictures on my profile, recent ones, no make up. If anything, I looked hotter in person. Totally had my most honest friends compare me to my profile pics so I wasn't misrepresenting myself. Couldn't say the same thing about the guy I met. He was a skanky, sleazy version of his photos. But the thought did run through my mind:"did I look like hell?":o
Author CulturallyConfused Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 Yes! I've done this twice. Intimidating the first time walking in on my own but once you do it, you'll ge the hang of it. The first time is always the hardest. And if you don't like it you can always leave! Just as Katz mentioned, met some nice ladies who were actually in awe of me walking in alone and had a nice night out. Gave me a boost of self-confidence and I can't even tell you how many times men and women actually walked up to get to know me. Yep, OLD is a sleavy meat market. Been of that for awhile. I've met some nice people on meetup, enjoy the activities and every now and then I'll put those heels on and hit me a singles event! Thank you Zahara... I'm totally going to be ballsy... lol I mean gutsy and do it.
dasein Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I think you're right, OLD isn't for me. I just got a super sleazy and weird feeling and then I felt like a fool for trying to make conversation when there was none to be had. Well, on second thought, consider not hanging it up just yet. I could go through a whole raft of truly bizarre experiences OLD, but the results were good and fun enough to put up with that, and have given me some of my best stories in retrospect. Your skin will toughen a bit in time, try to culivate a more impersonal attitude about early meets.
FitChick Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 OLD is like blind dating in the days before the internet. I remember being a kid and laughing at the horror stories my aunt told me about her dates. She was set up by friends, relatives, coworkers, "He's a great guy. I know you two will hit it off." OLD isn't magic. It's a learning experience, like everything else.
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