iouaname Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Many, many times. And every time I have made the situation worse. Sometimes I think of it as "the final time" but then, it never is. I need to fix myself and sort through my issues or I know that I am doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over again.
Antares Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Before learning of NC: who even knows. lol After learn of NC: Zero. None. Ziltch. 0. My current ex; I've been NC since the break up call. (um, like...40 days or something) Looked at her FB once and then blocked it. Haven't been back since. It was her bday last week and didn't do a thing. It was a short relationship but I do miss her still.
Hockeyguy19 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 So many times now that I've lost count, and each time it hurts, like the first day we broke up. I do find myself getting more numb to it, like putting your hand on the hot stove over and over again, you eventually get used to the feeling. I do not recommend it though, she breaks my heart every time as tells me she never wants to back together again, ever. She talks of her new bf which hurts and each conversation ends the same, it goes no where. For those of you thinking of breaking nc, think long and hard, because it hurts like hell when it doesn't go how you think it will.
marqueemoon4 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Way too many. And knowing myself, I'll do it again.
frostythesnowman Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 In my lifetime....164 to be exact and counting. Not once did it turn out well. You would think after the previous 163 times of EPIC failure that I would have learnt a lesson? No..Absoutely not. Some people think I am insane but I am convinced if I keep doing the same thing over and over again, then eventually the result will be different.... I'm afraid I'm in the same shoes as you. People question why I've still talked to this girl after so many attempts, and I just don't know. I'm motivated to be done for good now, and it is going to stay that way
starlet86 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I broke no contact an hour ago. I was feeling really down about things (not all relating to him) and sent him a text saying, "I miss you" he didn't reply... now I feel worse than when I sent that text. I added his number to the reject list on my phone and deleted every method of contact I have. I am going to do this! 2
Author bluegreen Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 O wow how many posts myself only twice first time he responded second no but its been only day sorry metal chick I had a bad moment am ill and ....
MusicgirlE Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I don't remember in terms of past relationships, but my most recent one (broke up 2.5 weeks ago) I have broken the NC 3 times. Once a week later to wish him a happy birthday (we didn't have a messy breakup - it's complicated), and he replied thanking me. Then a few days later I messaged him nicely asking if we could talk by phone at the end of the week, no response, then exactly a week after that, I texted him, and once again, no reply, which surprised me, since he isn't a mean person (or at least I didn't think). I have officially given up trying to reach him for closure, and have deleted him from my phone.
scorpio1978 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 I'm the dumper this time - past threads discuss the situation in full. But to be clear, during the break up, my ex asked me to please go NC with him to help him move on. I agreed. I found it tough. I wanted to check in with him, I craved contact, even just a text or email, but didn't give in to the urge. He contacted me several weeks after the BU. I ignored that because he'd asked me for NC. Then he contacted me again two further times, the third time was an email pouring his heart out and asking for another chance. I couldn't ignore that so I replied. That then led to LC over a period of about 3 weeks. I realised it wasn't helping either of us and have now insisted on NC again. Point of all this? We are both now feeling even worse than we did immediately post-break up. All his breaking of NC achieved was false hope, more regrets and jumping several steps back in the recovery/moving on process. It was a huge mistake for both of us. Why not work it out then? Sounds like you two really love each other
Author bluegreen Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 Yeah if at least you have that chance why not take it ?
scorpio1978 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Its just a double edged sword! If you don't contact them, you have anxiety, hope, feel like you absolutely HAVE to or else you're going to burst , which is pretty painful in its own right and then you give into the overwhelming temptation and feel terrible then too. We can't win!!
Author bluegreen Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 Not at all its classical case of damned if you do damned if you don't
BigTuna Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Not once since the day we split. It must be my star sign, but if I'm basically told I'm not wanted I have no overwhelming urge to ever speak to that person. I've struggled with closure, but then I've had overwhelmingly happy thoughts about who I may meet in the future
Chris715 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Not once since the day we split. It must be my star sign, but if I'm basically told I'm not wanted I have no overwhelming urge to ever speak to that person. I've struggled with closure, but then I've had overwhelmingly happy thoughts about who I may meet in the future Man, wish I could deal with things in this way. More power to you!
Author bluegreen Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 Man, wish I could deal with things in this way. More power to you! me 2 but then it all depends how much in love someone was
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