Chris715 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Had a day off from work today and literally did nothing but think about my ex. 3+ weeks of NC but nothing feels any better. I feel like I'm stuck in just as huge of a rut as I was when I contacted her daily and got hurt anew daily. I know you all are probably going to say "get busy" "move on" etc, etc. but easier said than done. Pretty sure I have clinical depression which was developing before my ex broke up with me due to problems at school and has only gotten worse since the break up in November. Any advice? Today was awful and I have no idea what I'm going to do tomorrow. I'm sick of thinking of her, sick of not being with her, and sick of this depression and this rut. I'm still fairly young (22) and don't have my own medical insurance yet. Only option to get help for depression would be through my parents, but I don't feel comfortable talking to them about any of this, at all.
Author Chris715 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 Can I ask why you feel uncomfortable talking to your parents? They would have been through heartbreak themselves, they might be able to help. I hid what was happening with me for 2 months before I finally buckled and told my parents, and they were amazing. I can tell you that the feelings are normal - NC feels just as bad, if not worse than speaking to them. The difference is, it does have a finite end, unlike talking to your ex, which is prolonged and potentially indefinite. So don't be worried about that, it is normal to go "Why the hell am I doing this if I don't feel better?"Not wanting to talk to them is a combination of a lot of things. I've been fighting a good deal with them lately and I've grown further apart from them over the last year or so. As sad as it is I don't view them as people I would want to open up to about all of this stuff going on with me. I've told a few of my best friends about most of it, but that's it.
Omei Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Had a day off from work today and literally did nothing but think about my ex. 3+ weeks of NC but nothing feels any better. I feel like I'm stuck in just as huge of a rut as I was when I contacted her daily and got hurt anew daily. I know you all are probably going to say "get busy" "move on" etc, etc. but easier said than done. Pretty sure I have clinical depression which was developing before my ex broke up with me due to problems at school and has only gotten worse since the break up in November. Any advice? Today was awful and I have no idea what I'm going to do tomorrow. I'm sick of thinking of her, sick of not being with her, and sick of this depression and this rut. I'm still fairly young (22) and don't have my own medical insurance yet. Only option to get help for depression would be through my parents, but I don't feel comfortable talking to them about any of this, at all. What is worse? being depressed and feeling horrible forever? OR having an awkward conversation with your parents! My first 2 relationships I rutted myself so bad, I am going through a breakup now prob my most loved and hurtful one FORCE yourself to do something, you have too! I have depression just force yourself even tho you hate it, its gonna get easier. And if you can't force yourself, all the more reason to share with someone people who love you will hold your hand sort of speak and force for you till you get on your feet. My mother didn't like hearing what I had to say but everyday she went on an outing with me to get my mind off things till I didn't need her anymore. Share it helps 1
Omei Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Not wanting to talk to them is a combination of a lot of things. I've been fighting a good deal with them lately and I've grown further apart from them over the last year or so. As sad as it is I don't view them as people I would want to open up to about all of this stuff going on with me. I've told a few of my best friends about most of it, but that's it. Sorry to hear about you're parents. But you have told a friend! That's great ask your friend if they would be willing to be with you as much as you needed hang out more. Don't be like "hey can we hang" Tell them straight up "Look, im having a hard time I cannot get through this alone can you help me? Can we do more stuff together, new things, anything just so I don't have to think about her" Maybe they will say yes. 3
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