Fmrbrknhrt22 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Hi everyone, I'll try and be brief. I help recruit foster families and once a month all the agencies send a representative or two to a recruitment event and we get a chance to talk to foster families. There is a beautiful girl with one of the other agencies with whom I spoke with a few months ago at one of the events. She has a really relaxed and calming demeanor about her that I really liked and I felt a few sparks fly. After the second event, I added her on facebook. After about 3 weeks, she added me and then we messaged a bit. I saw her at another recruitment event, we briefly chatted and then I bailed immediately after the event with just a hug when I felt I had a chance to seal it and get her number. Since then, we've messaged a bit back and forth and I asked her out for ice cream. She said the first time she couldn't because she would be gone, but that she would like to go out when she got back. I asked once more when she got back from her trip and she never replied. I saw her again tonight at an event, we chatted for a bit before the event, but once again, I bailed immediately after and said bye and that "we'll talk soon" when I had my chance once again to stick around a little longer and maybe court her a little more and ask for her number. I feel like I've been a bit cowardly in not asking her out in person and making more of an effort to speak with her after these events. On the other hand, she is giving me very mixed messaged through messaging so I'm not sure if she's even interested or not. I figure I will give the girl her space and then go for it next month. Any advice would be appreciated though.-Chris
SoulJazzBlues Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I don't know. It doesn't sound like you're interested. You bail every time you see her. If I was her, I'd assume you friend zoned. Asking someone out for icecream doesn't scream date to me. She probably has filed you as a friend using your behaviour towards her.
Author Fmrbrknhrt22 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 I don't bail on her though. At every event we always talk before for a bit. It's after the event that I get nervous when she's with a group and I bolt. The ice cream thing was because I didn't want to lay it on too thick and ask her out to dinner when I really don't know her that well and just wanted to keep it casual.
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