jenn_64 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Hi there, my ex broke up with me 3 months ago. The last time I spoke to him he said to not look for him anymore, that we had to move on and he meant it when he broke up with me. I left him alone and about a month ago I heard from a mutual friend that he's thought of contacting me,misses me, and still loves me. However, he also told this friend he would never take me back. I've used this time to help me move on but I still love and miss him. I can see what I did wrong in the relationship and I feel like I've learned from my mistakes. I still feel like this guy is the one. I want to send him a message and see if he will reply. I want to talk to him as a friend at least. I want to let him know that I miss him and love him and I've learned from my mistakes. Should I contact him or am I just getting myself into more heartbreak? Advice, suggestions, comments are greatly appreciated!
CarrieT Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 However, he also told this friend he would never take me back. ^^^^ THIS ^^^^ STAY NO CONTACT! Why set yourself up for more heartache? 2
SimonSerenade Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Been there, did that, rejected, felt like crap, moved on and wore the hat. Sorry for the rhyme there but that's how it went after I contacted an ex from long ago after 3 months no contact, in honesty it was harsh but i felt I needed to do it one last time to have the closure that we will never be again, after that I moved on and accepted it, if she didn't want me after so much time apart, she never would, I still thought about her after that only the pain wasn't really as excruciating like it was before, it could help so I would say, reach out one last time and if that is that, go back to no contact and never break it again.
Leigh 87 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 If he was the one, he would want you back. He clearly doesn't. He has even stated this to you and his friends. There are more than 1 "ones" out there. There is not just ONE guy that is "the one". Seriously. There are 7 billion people in this world. We would all be screwed if there was only "one" other mate out there for us. A guy can truly miss you SO much, yet without wanting you back as a life partner. Remember that. A guy CAN miss you A LOT and still NOT want you as a partner. If you contact him, he will not want you back, and you will be heartbroken ALL over again. What do you choose? To keep No Contact and move on, until you DO find a man who WANTS to be with you? Or do you want to put yourself through pain. Which WILL happen, I am 100% sure of, if you break No Contact. 2
Calcmag Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 A guy can truly miss you SO much, yet without wanting you back as a life partner. Remember that. A guy CAN miss you A LOT and still NOT want you as a partner. This is true. I'm a real life exampe of this being true .I miss my ex very much. The break up (I'm the dumper) has been excruciatingly painful. I still love him. But I do NOT want him back. Don't break NC. I just wrote elsewhere about how my ex broke NC and now we both feel worse than we did immediately after the break up. Don't break NC, it's not worth the pain.
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