Do you have the right to set your own standards for selecting a relationship partner?

[A O]

Its not even a right, its just common sense - or it should be!

[Phoe]

I'd gladly take pity sex if ever offered one. But never was offered one. Maybe it doesn't exist at all.

 

Maybe there is something wrong with me. Would be better if that was something I could do something about it and not like height. Another poster in other thread rubbed it in my face how you have to be 6 ft tall to get girls and it pisses me off. Fkin douchebag!

 

 

 

Hey, short men can get women! I'm 5'8 and 3 out of the 5 men I've dated were shorter than me! Their kind and funny personalities are what attracted me Focus on yourself as a person, not on your height

[Xinreeki]

Was going to post this in yet another thread about standards that cropped up, but seems it was discontinued or something? So I'm posting the ideas here instead, as they relate to this topic too -

 

 

Let's face it, if you aren't attracted you aren't attracted.

 

I couldn't agree more...

 

 

Does it make me shallow that I don't like arrogant idiots who claim to be "nice"? .

 

Exactly the question I always want to ask people who complain because they feel they should be entitled to be in a relationship / entitled to get dates!!

 

This is a point some people seem to be missing I think...

 

Of course you have the right to have standards and to be attracted to whomever you are attracted to, that is your fundamental right.

 

But as pteromom so brilliantly put it (in the now seemingly discontinued thread) ...having the right to set your own standards is NOT the same as being ENTITLED to date those people who meet your standards... This is because they too... have the RIGHT to set their own standards!

 

And if some women are not attracted to arrogant, bitter guys then they are well within their rights to avoid them, in the same way that if some guys are not attracted to certain types of women, they are well within their rights to avoid them!

 

 

Originally Posted by Bert Peppers

 

I was drinking alone at a bar when I spotted a fat girl dancing on a nearby table. After watching for a while I walked past her and said, “Amazing legs.” She giggled and said with a smile, “Do you really think so?” “Definitely,” I replied. “Most tables would have collapsed by now.”. She called me an arsehole and told her fat friend, also a whale...

 

Everyone has preferences, there's nothing wrong with that. Most people however don't go round hurting the feelings of random strangers they're not attracted to. Are you seriously puzzled that you've been getting such negative reactions here?

 

 

I'm 35 now and have been single for over a decade. I don't know if it made me bitter or not, but I have this great FEAR that i'll either end up with an obese woman who I'm not attracted to or alone forever. I see it happen to unattractive lower class men, and I don;t want it to happen to me.

 

I think my way of handling the FEAR of fat women is by striking out and making a scene about it. I'm not like this to fat women in real life though, I just avoid them completely.

 

 

I just don't understand how someone can behave in such an offensive way, and yet still wonder why so many people want to avoid them / not what to date them??