I am at 1 week of not attempting to contact does it get easier

[bluegreen]

As time goes it gets harder actually and by that I mean so hard you are prone to believe it will never stop when will it get easier am ready for it now but truth is not for at least months from now.

[frostythesnowman]

Very nicely said, I read that saying somewhere before "the person who loves least holds the power".

 

My ex had a hint of narcissism in her personality, if she hurt me in any way it wouldn't phase her, I could sit there for hours telling her how x y and z affected me and get nowhere, probably what makes the break up so hard, she gets angry and takes her frustrations out on me so talking to her unless its on her terms isn't an option, her inability to recognise when she's hurt someone makes it hard to explain how hard this break up is, she has no sense of guilt, remorse, empathy or anything needed to see that she's done wrong with the way she broke up with me, she sees her side and nothing else, probably why she repeate so many mistakes during our relationship.

 

Still, I accepted her limitations and the fact she couldn't open up like other people out there. I was happy to be with her and understood her, she never saw this side of her so I kept my mouth shut, at heart she's a good person with a heart of gold so you take the bad with the good so they say.

 

So what you said is true, when your truly in love with someone and love them to the core, nothing matters and you stay with them with no doubts, nothing scares you, least of all the love, everything else is just an excuse.

 

I know what you mean. My ex has hurt me over and over again without having a clue. She would then realize that I was hurt, apologize, but never sincerely mean it because it would just happen over and over again. In the end, she never really cared whether something affected me or not, while it was the exact opposite for me; anything that affected her I cared about greatly.

 

I think that someone who truly loves someone won't be turned away if they find that the other person loves them to a great extent. If anything, it should strengthen it