Dblock10 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 (edited) i hate nostalgia. its all around us... as in face book means no one truly can move on and forget them.. I have been broken up for 2 years and i still think about my ex. not as much as i used to but certainly fb is a trigger. We havent spoke for 5 months and I was tempted to reach out and speak to her. its hard letting go. please dont say delete them from fb. It wasn't a bad break up. and if our circumstances were different i believe we would still be together. its too long to explain the situation although i am sure the history and my skeletons are still lurking about here if you were interested Edited June 11, 2013 by Dblock10 1
Chi townD Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Well, regardless if it was a bad break up or not. Just having a link to her is inhibiting your healing process.
Author Dblock10 Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 yeah agreed. but my head knows what is rational and what is fantasy now.
Sneaky Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Is it possible for you to just stay off facebook for a while? That's what I'm doing with the social media me and my ex are both on as well as I have no intention of blocking her either no longer how long it takes before I feel like I can go back.
Author Dblock10 Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 yeah its possible and i stayed off it on my computer for 6 months now. i would only go on it on my phone and i hid what she posts and what she is tagged in long long ago. so last night i thought i'd just see if she was online, she wasn't and obviously i noticed her profile photo had changed and it brought up some questions in my mind, like how time changes and did i really know her? I don't know her now she has been living her own life for a long time. but due to the way she and i both stayed in touch and even met up a year later and the spark was still there it just hurt more the second time she moved away. even though i wanted to stay in touch, doing so was hurting so much. and now it hurts that i feel like we are just strangers
Simon Phoenix Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Yeah, maybe you should block their news feed or something. But still, two years and you are still dealing with this? That would suck a copious amount of ass.
bluegreen Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 2 years is really long time to pin for someone after break up but as for nostalgia yes we all are experiencing it some song some movie some ..... Am sure they are to except we just can't see it some hide some are to far away from us some we are in bad spot with and not talk to 1
seahawker64 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Man, I know it's not what you want to hear. You really do have to zap her from FB or quit using it yourself. We all here have had to do that for the most part. If you read the various articles on the Web one of the first thing's you need to do is get rid of all that social media stuff. It's CRITICAL to you being able to move on. It really is. If you want your healing to take place which it sounds like you do, you have to take that step. Otherwise your just torturing yourself, no matter if it was a good or bad break-up, you still have that tie. You have to cut the cord for yourself. I'm still really missing my ex and it's been 4 month's now. I'm a a helluva lot better then I was and it's mainly due to NC. I don't torture myself by having access to her every move on FB. It's a far better thing to not know. I immediately blocked her on FB. I stopped going to any store I knew she may go to as well. I've done everything I can to avoid her at all cost's. I have received 1 email from her and you know what I did. I did nothing. No response, no nothing. I can't risk that I may screw up my healing. The frigging relationship she and I had is over. And I treat it as such. it hurt's, it's sucks, I'm lonely but in the end she and I are not together anymore and I need to heal. Shut everything down and take care of yourself for you, no one else, just you. I wish you luck man, 2 years and I'd be looking for the nearest bridge.
bluegreen Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Sea hawk actually made me laugh bless you for that but I was thinking same thing exact same one if this lasted two years
Author Dblock10 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 (edited) well we dont live in the same country anymore so won't bump into her. Like I say, if we were on the same path, there is no doubt in my mind that we would have stayed together. But life has it's own funny ways doesn't it. I'm not pinning for her, as I say I know what is reality and what is fantasy. I do have access (as you put it) to her fb, but iv'e never looked. I'm deffo looking after myself, I put my happiness first before anyone/anything now. Edited June 12, 2013 by Dblock10
SweetiePie12 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 i hate nostalgia. its all around us... as in face book means no one truly can move on and forget them.. I have been broken up for 2 years and i still think about my ex. not as much as i used to but certainly fb is a trigger. Seriously! I was on kind of a bender yesterday, and clicked like on a bunch of his stuff, so at the moment, his image appears 8 times on my timeline. Even before the bender, he's firmly in my #2 top friends spot so I see an old image of him every day. We havent spoke for 5 months and I was tempted to reach out and speak to her. I was tempted yesterday. Don't think I have a working number. Too timid to try. Haven't spoken in 14 months, but have begun some writing correspondence (fingers crossed!).
flitzanu Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 i hate nostalgia. its all around us... as in face book means no one truly can move on and forget them.. I have been broken up for 2 years and i still think about my ex. not as much as i used to but certainly fb is a trigger. We havent spoke for 5 months and I was tempted to reach out and speak to her. its hard letting go. please dont say delete them from fb. It wasn't a bad break up. and if our circumstances were different i believe we would still be together. its too long to explain the situation although i am sure the history and my skeletons are still lurking about here if you were interested you mean it wasn't a bad breakup for her, bc it obviously still affects you. i'm telling you the stove is hot, don't touch it. if you want to keep touching it... what exactly is the point of staying friends on facebook if you don't even talk anymore? 1
Author Dblock10 Posted June 14, 2013 Author Posted June 14, 2013 well I was informed by a mutual friend that she has a new bf, status went up on fb. bit of a strange feeling, but it's life and I just need to forget it and move on totally. I know that what I was idolising was never her, just an image in my mind of what I really wanted to have but could never obtain with her.
Gem84 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Nostalgia is a bitch...music is my worst trigger. You gotta keep moving forward, keeping busy and working towards other goals.
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