racoon5 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 (edited) Well got back from my departure to Congo, Afrika 2 days ago checked my cellphone for the first time, and damm she knew i got back home and she blew out on alot of texts first asking if i was still mad for her leaving me, after we went trough alot of **** i responded i wasn't mad anymore she basiclly said what she had on her mind , she really regrets leaving me, that she should've stayed, that she should've fought harder, that she can't stop thinking about me , that she thinks about me when she saw old pictures, when she was walking trough the mall, and alot more she told me it was to late, that she couldn't even understand why she left me that she should've again waited and fought untill i cleaned my life up. That it began good and ended stupid and that instead of fighting she ran like she did her entire life, she said this ''i think it's better for me to stop texting you it doesn't matter what i say to you i can't get you out of my mind. After the drama i said well why are u with a new guy 1 week after we broke up, and she said this i mist you so much i don't know why i did it , i should've waited i ****ing should have, i look like a stalker i jus't need to let you go completly i think. now a day later she's starting to bring up old memories that when she was brushing her teeth i would make funny faces behind her and stuff like that. How do i handle this, she's still with the guy, but it seems she clearly isn't doing that well as she made it seems she was befoe i departed. I'm even considering to invite her for a drink or just a chat jus't to talk but only if she knows what she wants. i don't know how to handle this geezes christ i knew she would regret it i even told her why o why am i always right when it envolves her..... Maybe she truly regrets it, maybe she doesn't. i might just wait i don't ****ing know what to do for ****s sakes guys ADVICE plz xD Edited June 11, 2013 by racoon5
fancy feast Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 I wouldn't respond until you got something more concrete (ie she isn't with someone else). A bunch of "I feel bad" messages is hardly an effort. 1
Author racoon5 Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 Ye that's what i was thinking, let her put some effort into it but **** mate after reading those texts, it really makes u think about stuff
xpaperxcutx Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Ye that's what i was thinking, let her put some effort into it but **** mate after reading those texts, it really makes u think about stuff Do you know how easy it is to text someone? 20 secs to a minute for responses if you are nimble on your fingers. But seriously though, unless she's banging on your door and asking to meet you and see you, she's only after you for emotional, all the while she's probably sleeping with the new guy and you're left in the dust. Stop replying to her. Let her dwell in her own loss for a while. She's only going through dumper's remorse and you wouldn't want to get entangled in that because she might just leave you again.
Chi townD Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 What the hell were you doing in the Congo? Not exactly the most ideal vacation spot! Personally, I would just keep NC. What has all of that communication taught you? Nothing new. She's just remembering old times. She's just reflecting on the past. So, what....big deal. You need to be looking at the future.
aloneinaz Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Hum... you have thicker skins than I. I'm not sure I would have responded to her especially if she was with someone else. She wants the best of both worlds. Her new boy toy AND YOU. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction. I'd ignore her unless like someone else said, she's lets you know she dumped the other guy and makes it clear she wants you back. The obvious question then becomes, do you want her back? Why did she break up with you the first time? What's changed that it won't happen again? My ex and I broke up 3 times this year with her ending it the last two times. I agreed to try one final time w/couple therapy but she didn't change and ended it again. My point, the issues that lead to the first break up or often still prevalent during the second try and you know what that brings.
Author racoon5 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 (edited) Congo was not a holiday, i'm in the Belgium army mate it was hell it was warm and the bugs sorry for my language BUT **** DEM BUGS SERIOUSLY!. I would give her a second change, but only and only when she is honest and dumps the guy i've known her for 12 years and when she texts like this she does really regret it, she never says or texts whats on her mind but when she does it's the truth, she's learning for her final exam. I even aske her do you think it's normal for you to say all this stuff to me when youre with someone else. She replied no it's not normal and then well the rest quikly followed, i'm moving trough unknown land here, i'm gonna see where it goes, if it goes well so be it, if it goes bad so be it. i've always been the kind of guy that takes risks. Believe me i've been trough so much ****, i'm sure i can take a that bit more if it does go bad. I rather be sure it never happens again then leave an opportunity left in the dust. just something minor i actually had a one night stand before i departed so i guess i'm not mich better than her really come to think of it Reasons for break up well i took her for granted and when i got into dem ****z with my own life she left me. Edited June 12, 2013 by racoon5
Author racoon5 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 oh wow she told me she broke up with the guy O_o i Told her i would consider talking to her, if her finals were good
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