MWilliams15 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Hi, I'm new here but I have read through some threads in the past and thought I could come here for some help. So I met this girl a couple of months ago and we started talking, just as friends and started liking her. I never told her until recently after we hungout one night. We hadn't hung out before we just talked when we saw each other and texted quite frequently. She said she had a great time with me and one of our mutual friends asked me if I liked her and I told her I did. We kept texting for a while and had a steady friendship, but eventually she kind of faded out of my life. I tried to move on and get her off my mind, but it didn't work. We live quite aways away from each other so I don't get to see her much and haven't seen her in the last couple of weeks, and haven't talked to her at all either. A couple of days ago we started texting again and she told me she had a great time when she went out with me, but she just doesn't want to be more than friends and she doesn't really text people much either. However, we texted a lot before and she kept texting back and we had good conversations. This fall we are going to be going to the same college and I'm just glad she still wants to be friends for now. I'd like to think I am not stuck in the friendzone seeing as we aren't great friends we just talk/talked a lot and got to know each other really well and I'm sure she liked me at one point but I came on too strong and pushed her away. So I guess what I am asking is how can I take our relationship a step further, now that we are talking again? She has never had a serious relationship before and I think that is why I pushed her away, and she lost interest. Right now the only form of communication we have is through text, and I was wondering how I could try to spark her interest again. Like I said I tried to move on and forget about her but it just didn't work out, with other girls in the past I have been able to move on, but for some reason, not with her. I just don't want to rush into things, and I know I can't force her to like me or want to go out with me. I'm just wondering if there is a way for me to spark her interest again and see where things go from there. Thanks for reading, sorry it was a bit long I tried to keep it brief and I can offer additional information if it would be helpful. Also friend may not be right word for us, but we are definatly more than aquantinces. Thanks again, Mason
FrustratedGuy91 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Well she did like you at some point, but you kept it as friends and then she seems to have lost interest. Now the best you can do is date around, forget about her for a while, let her chase you. By this I don't mean outright ignore her, just don't be her friend, don't text all the time, don't initiate contact. Just keep her around... 1
Author MWilliams15 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 Thank you for responding quickly. I am a little bit confused though. We are texting again just not as much as before. When you say keep her close, what do you mean by that? Dos, Don'ts, anything else. I really like talking to her and we've had great conversations in the past, I guess I just don't quite get what you mean or how to keep her close and regain her interest.
Ripnet Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Thank you for responding quickly. I am a little bit confused though. We are texting again just not as much as before. When you say keep her close, what do you mean by that? Dos, Don'ts, anything else. I really like talking to her and we've had great conversations in the past, I guess I just don't quite get what you mean or how to keep her close and regain her interest. What I think he meant is keep busy by actively dating other women. If you're dating often you won't be able to text her that much. Personally if a woman doesn't show interest I just don't waste my time with her no matter how much I like her.
FrustratedGuy91 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 What I think he meant is keep busy by actively dating other women. If you're dating often you won't be able to text her that much. Personally if a woman doesn't show interest I just don't waste my time with her no matter how much I like her. Pretty much what he said. Some women (not all) will show signs of interest if you ignore them a bit. Besides she kinda rejected you already so you lose nothing with keeping some distance from her. But start dating other women, if she comes, she comes. If she doesn't... she wasn't going to regardless of what you did.
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