pinkroses Posted October 10, 2004 Posted October 10, 2004 I met someone online about three months ago and we really clicked and have been seeing each other regularly ever since. It's been a great relationship. Recently I got curious about something on his profile and looked it up and noticed he hadn't been active in 3 weeks. That was encouraging to me, I was hoping he had lost interest in it or was letting his membership lapse or something. I knew he'd recently taken some new webcam pictures of himself when he'd gotten his hair cut, and he'd sent me these pictures. I was also encouraged he hadn't posted these new pictures. Well, just this past week I looked at the matches e-mail I get from that site I'm also subscribed to, and he was one of my new matches. I saw that he had updated his profile with one of his new pictures, and had been active within the last 24 hours. That can mean anything from opening mail from that site to logging in or to searching for dates to updating his profile. I also noticed he had posted some of his new pictures. I was thinking what if it was me and I had a nice, new current picture of myself that was better, I'd want to post it too, and it wouldn't necessarily mean I was looking for anybody, just updating my profile. Still, I don't know what the motivation was behind him doing this. This almost feels like cheating, kind of hurts me. I know there haven't been any understandings between us yet and he doesn't know anymore about my long term intentions than I do about his. I just wonder if this is a bad thing, or normal or what to think about it.
bluechocolate Posted October 10, 2004 Posted October 10, 2004 I think 3 months is a long enough time to have that conversation. You know, the one that goes: "are we an item?". That kind of thing. I always had that conversation after 2 months of dating. Until you both commit to each other to trying to make something work more long term in a sense you're both still "single" and free to meet & date other people. You say that you aren't sure what your intentions are with this bloke then chances are he doesn't know either. However, you feel that he's almost cheating & you're kinda hurt so I'm guessing that you would like to know that you are the only one he is dating. Just because you want an exclusvie relationship it doesn't stand to reason that you're thinking wedding bells. Hopefully he'll understand that.
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