youngANDfree Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Hello Everyone! I'm new to this forum. Like most others, I feel like I have nowhere else to turn to. From the day I met my boyfriend, I've admired him. We met in class at my University and had an instant attraction to each other that led to us dating. I was especially attracted to his determination. He was an A student, president of several academic fraternities, member of an honor society, and all-around friendly guy. I considered myself to be an average student in comparison. My bf has another year of school left and is a law school hopeful, while I recently graduated. I haven't yet found a job, and it's been a crushing blow to my self-worth. I feel that I am nowhere near as accomplished as him. I haven't even scored an interview. This causes me to feel like he deserves someone that is "better" than me. I feel like one day he'll wake up from his infatuated stupor and realize that there are plenty of other great women in the world who have much more going for themselves than I. It's causing me great pain, and I don't want to tell him for fear of seeming too weak and insecure. Should I leave him?
will1988 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 You should not leave him. Love is blindness. You may not be a brainyak like him, nor as succesful, but you have something in you that he truly loves and cherishes. Sometimes opposites attract. For example: My fiance and I are complete opposites. If by what you are saying I am much more succesful than my fiance. Yet, I don't care about that. Not at all actually. I am a lot smarter than her on many things. However, she still manges to surprise me on some things. She is also a very king, loyal and loving person. We may seem like opposites, and we are, but our chemistry and personalities mesh well and bounce off of each other. Your BF loves you for a reason, so if all you are affraid of is him leaving you for someone better... then you are just being insecure. Learn to love yourself. Don't leave him.
SimonSerenade Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 You shouldn't leave him, he sounds like a nice guy, your just going through a phase of self doubt, phases like this come and go in life more times than anyone would like, the fact is your trying and that's what matters and if he loves you, the core you, then he'll stick around through any hardship of your life for you because your worth it, you obviously think a lot of this guy so don't leave him, believe in yourself and give yourself some credit, you know in your heart it'll be a mistake, maybe have a talk with him about how your feeling?
Author youngANDfree Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 Thanks for the advice everyone. I know this is just a phase of self doubt and hopefully it'll pass soon. I am quite the pessimist and have been giving myself a hard time, despite the fact my graduation was pretty recent. Comparison to friends isn't helping the cause at all. I will definitely try to be more positive and realize that does indeed care about me and must believe I possess good qualities ..or else he wouldn't be with me. Wish me luck in the job (and self-esteem) market
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