how can someone turn so cold and nasty.

[minimad]

history.

 

my ex and I where engaged in 1988 after a year together. Then broke up in 1989 my fault I found out I had a r year old daughter with a previous girl friend and ended up being pushed into a marriage. But I still loved the girl I was engaged to.

 

I spent the next 7 years wanting to be with the one I loved.then one day I met her. She was married had a child and was pregnant. We had a short lived thing the timing was all wrong and went or own ways.

 

so I was back to thinking about her for the next 10 years. One day I looked her up on the net like I had done many times before and she was there. I contacted her and a few days later she replied.

 

She was single. (WOW I was the luckiest man alive). We started a relationship that was fantastic for both of us. She would text me or write me letters telling me how her life was compleat with me in.

 

We had over 5 years like this.

 

then one night there was an argument between her an her 18 year old daughter about her not paying her way at home. Her daughter started with saying that she had wanted to talk to her mum about it without me there as she didn't want my input on the subject. Long story short I was bad mouthed by her as I sat there and thought my partner she say something.

 

After the my ex and I took a walk and I said I was pissed at the way I had been spoken to and that she should of said something. The reply I got was I was wrong for putting pressure on her right now.

 

then a few months later her daughter dumped her boyfriend and wanted to be single for a while. I swear I felt all the love for me leave. Within a few weeks I was dumped. The excuses where

 

I'm not feeling it anymore

we want different things

you deserve so much better than me

the relationship died a long time ago

I don't love you

I care about you so much but not in love with you

and so on.

 

well tor a month she would not let me leave and panicked when I went anywhere thinking I would not return.

 

I later found out she had been talking to other men on the net and one she had got on with. Several others she had exchanged numbers with all since the argument with her daughter.

 

as of today 2 months later I am in NC for the last 2 weeks.

 

but what I don't get is this.

 

how did she turn so cold

has no interest in me at all

she became very angry at me

she put me through hell not letting go at first

how can she just switch off all her feeling for me

how can she forget everything we did together

and why the hell do I still love her and want her. I still cry every day as I miss her so much. I even found out she lied to everyone we knew blaming me for the break up that I wasn't doing the right things for her. She hasn't told anyone about the other man and doesn't know I know. (I had her facebook password).

 

Could this be a midlife crisis as she is 42 and always worried about getting older.

[TaraMaiden]

There's never any point in questioning what other people do, or why.

You're right to be in NC.

 

Keep it up, don't break it, and carry on rebuilding your life.

 

Answers will never come to your questions. They're pointless.

 

Just focus on what you need to do.

 

Honestly.

[Thunderchild]

To fathom what another human being thinks you may as well try to work out what the sea thinks.

 

You can never know, so don't stress about it.

[Delilah1623]

I believe Marilyn Monroe said it best... " People change so that you can learn to let go..."