CryForNoOne Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 (edited) I had to hide my list of friends on Facebook today. It all started about two weeks ago when a casual fan / acquaintance from the bar scene and my band recognized me in traffic, waved, and flagged me down. So I pulled over and chatted with him for a few minutes. He seemed overeager to chat up a storm with me but he's an older guy and I figured he was harmless and I'd just be friendly. Anyway he friended me on FB and I accepted, not thinking much of it and went on with my day. Yesterday I got a random FB message from a ridiculously hot young woman. I normally ignore suspect messages and friend requests but when I perused her FB profile i saw she had liked some bars I frequent and one my band plays at. So I replied with a polite message back. She then told me she really liked a song we performed at our gig Saturday night - no way she knew that unless she was there. That got me really intrigued and a bit creeped out at the same time. How the hell did she know my last name and find me on FB as there is no obvious trail through our band website etc... She also told me that I should leave my "not so sexy GF" who has no "tits" or "ass" for her. She is the Pamela Anderson type whereas my GF is more the Kate Beckinsale type. That annoyed me but I chatted a little longer before spurning her not subtle advances. At which point she threatened to tell my GF i was hitting on her - not true. She proceeded to browse my friends list until she found her and then named her. That really pissed me off and now I really needed to know who she was. Especially because I did not see her in the audience at all, and though she is not my type, there is NO WAY I would not have noticed her if she was in fact there. So then I started scrutinizing her profile and realized that though she had 600+ friends, they were from all over the world and almost none locally. Then I noticed her profile pics were almost all modeling shots and curiously none just "hanging" with friends. It was at that point I realized the profile was a fake and was most likely a dude and probably someone I knew. I created a list of all the people I remember at the gig, and started asking "her" probing questions and leaving "bait" so to speak. Anyway, it didn't take me long to figure out it was that a*hole I that stopped me in traffic and friended a couple weeks ago. I called him out on it but "she" played dumb. Whatever. I'm 100% certain it is him. Anyway, "she" did message my girlfriend as my GF told me she got a message saying I was cheating on her blah blah blah. Thankfully my GF trusts me and dismissed it without giving it a second thought. But now I'm trying to figure out what to do/say when I bump into this weirdo creep. It's only a matter of time... Edited June 11, 2013 by CryForNoOne
Emilia Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Welcome to the world of creepy facebook stalkers - something that us women are familiar with. Until recently I had my friend list as private, only when I started using photos that don't show my face that I made my friend list public because otherwise there would be really no way for people to find me. I have friends who are really private and they don't even allow friend requests by 'friends of friends'. I suggest you set your friend list private and perhaps protect your girlfriend by setting your relationship status with her to an 'only me' setting. I did that for my sister when I was with the police so she wouldn't be exposed if anyone found me. 1
Ordinaryday Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 if that is the worst you have had you got it easy. I 'liked' a few dating pages on there (eharmony, etc) and since then my inbox has become ABSOLUTELY SWAMPED (literally about three messages a day) from gorgeous supermodel women in Russia and Nigeria ALL declaring their love for me - even though they have never even met me. I am not stupid, I know it is a scam, and I just delete them, or if I feel up to it I send them a nasty message telling them to bugger off. I would never fall for it, but sadly I read that LOTS of people do, scamming is a multi million dollar industry in Nigeria! so sad! so don't stress.
TaraMaiden Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 I have 17 friends on FB. All known, all genuine all smart people. Skim, delete, or make a different page for your personal life. Geesh, why is FB such a big deal, suddenly?? Oh - and yes, i also run a business. the two are totally separate..... 1
Leigh 87 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 FaceBook. Welcome users. Most of you have nothing better to do then to add people who you're not close with and who you barley talk to in real life. Enjoy being contacted by people who you don't particularly like talking to in real life. Better still, welcome all the over eager people that barley know you. They like you, but they cannot really connect with you in real life. Yet they can talk on Facebook. It is a utterly thrilling, so do enjoy this service. It is even free. Please enjoy the conversations you get to have with people, who sadly, you will probably never encounter in real life. Although you may walk past them at the shops or in college, so don't forget to SMILE:) Facebook ignoring someone is rude and against the guidelines.
TaraMaiden Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 There is such a thing as blocking. Go on their posts, hit 'hide'. Then you get a string of options, including 'blocking'. Pick that option. Problem sorted. Leigh... It's 'barely'. 'Barley' is a type of grain. Check with yer mum!!
Leigh 87 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 There is such a thing as blocking. Go on their posts, hit 'hide'. Then you get a string of options, including 'blocking'. Pick that option. Problem sorted. Leigh... It's 'barely'. 'Barley' is a type of grain. Check with yer mum!! I thought it looked off. I am serious. It's actually her 34th or so year of being an English teacher. I have my mum on facebook, lol. She hates it but only got it for me, since I am travelling and it would be a free way to keep in contact. She thinks it is RIDICULOUS the way the younger generation use it:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: It is funny how anti facebook she is! She even laments about her best friend who is a facebook junkie, and shares her life with the world via fb. Mum cannot understand why people need to share the goings on in their lives, with other people. ..................................................................... I spied on a certain idiots facebook page a few times, and the amount of crap younger people write is sickly. They write any mundane thing. " I ate a tuna sandwich. I could so go another one:D" One girl even wrote " I'm not gunna lie, sex is on my mind" Seriously. It is a joke. It makes me feel better about myself though. And it is not uncommon for people to have 1000 plus friends. FRIENDS. Really? Well, I must be miss unpopular:lmao: I am about to actually edit my list of 60 friends. It actually feels like I have way to many. People from college I will never see next semester once I move, for example. Even though I talked nicely to them in real life and we liked each other. Still no reason to have people you will not actually be chatting to again! Rant over. I feel bad for the OP. The girls sound sad and desperate. 1
Maleficent Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 It has nothing to do with Facebook. You're in a band. There will be groupies. I used to date a drummer of a cover band. One night a girl went to the singer and asked three questions What is your drummer's name? Is he single? And when the anser was yes she asked : has he ever cheated on his girlfriend? I also saw another give a 'blowjob' to a drum stick he had throw in the crowd. Groupies happen. Best is to laugh it off. You also could have simply blocked her...
Leigh 87 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 It has nothing to do with Facebook. You're in a band. There will be groupies. I used to date a drummer of a cover band. One night a girl went to the singer and asked three questions What is your drummer's name? Is he single? And when the anser was yes she asked : has he ever cheated on his girlfriend? I also saw another give a 'blowjob' to a drum stick he had throw in the crowd. Groupies happen. Best is to laugh it off. You also could have simply blocked her... But Facebook takes desperation to a whole new level.... These girls can just add him and harass him in his personal time, in addition to being able to annoy him in person.
Maleficent Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 But Facebook takes desperation to a whole new level.... These girls can just add him and harass him in his personal time, in addition to being able to annoy him in person. 15 years ago we had this wonderful thing called a phone book.
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