starlet86 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I became a lunatic with an ex once, I was in the middle of Bipolar episode when he ended our 2 year relationship. Needless to say it was horrifying. I ended up in hospital and everything. I now try and control myself as much as possible. with my most recent ex, I have done a few things I think are pretty ridiculous, like I told him I was considering moving to see how he'd react - I hate lying, but I wanted to see if he gave a **** if he never saw me again. I also with-held my number and called him, just so I could hear his voice. I drove past his flat a few times. I see him everyday at work now though, so I don't have to do any crazy stuff, I just drive myself up the wall trying not to lunge at him and start crying that I still love him. That's pretty crazy behaviour.
Dundas Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 (edited) Well I'm 19 and just had my first breakup where my ex of 2.5 years left me 2 months ago for some younger guy. She wouldn't tell me the reason she dumped me at first, and I went crazy... kept no contact for the first few days, then I went off and texted her a million times, explaining how I believed she had met someone else, that I'm pretty sure I knew who it was (I was right), that he would never love her like I did... Blah, blah, blah. I didn't get the answers I was seeking, so I drove to a fire-tower that was like 4 stories high and called her up, screaming and flipping out, she wouldn't give me the answers I was looking for. I said about every hateful thing I could think of and threatened to jump off the tower. Then, later that night, I couldn't sleep so after midnight, I kept texting her and calling her, crying and begging for the truth. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, I begged her to come to my house one more time to make me happy again just for one day, she wouldn't. I kept calling her for the rest of that day, she finally told me the truth about the guy she was seeing - I calmed down at first. Then later that day I kept calling her... she was at the movies with the new guy, I flipped out over the phone. I scheduled a tattoo appointment to get a new tattoo just to 'piss her off.' (I didn't actually go through with it...) I sent messages to him on Facebook saying a ton of stuff about how boring she was in bed, and detailed everything I could think of, told him to come to my house if he had a problem... Fast-forward another month of occasionally calling and texting and drunk-dialing in the middle of the night, only to find out that she changed her number and that the number I was sending my lovely voicemails to at 1am now belonged to her brother... arguing at work (she relieves my shift once a week)... it took awhile, but now I can laugh at how devastated I was over her, and I say screw her! I'm pretty sure we both mildly hate each other now, we've all gone through break-up crazies but at least hating her can help me move on. Edited June 14, 2013 by Dundas 1
eddyctv Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I'm am currently on the downward spiral. I am trying to keep it together but it is impossible. And it's only been five DAYS. I know this is going to be a long LONG road of despair, and I am not emotionally capable of handling it.
mahon451 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 I'm am currently on the downward spiral. I am trying to keep it together but it is impossible. And it's only been five DAYS. I know this is going to be a long LONG road of despair, and I am not emotionally capable of handling it. It's not impossible. It's incredibly difficult, yes, but not impossible. I won't lie to you- the road ahead is dark, lonely, and paved with metaphorical feces that you will constantly step in; you will cry, freak out, lose your appetite, get blindingly angry at inappropriate times, snap at people with just the slightest provocation, you'll probably drink a lot... in about a month, your friends will start to get sick of you being down, and even more sick of hearing about it, and that's when the REAL loneliness starts. So yeah- it's pretty much like trying to navigate an emotional minefield. But now, the good news: You're alive. I'm assuming all of your body parts are functioning correctly, yes? At least there's that- while emotionally, you might be nuked, you're probably in reasonable shape, physically speaking. Latch on to that, and use it- go exhaust yourself physically, as often as you can. Go for that hardcore hike, do a full-body workout at the gym, go for that 100-mile bike ride. Anything that will get those endorphins going, because those are what will help you feel better overall. Go out at night, with friends. Get laid if that'll help you distract yourself. Right now, you need to worry about you, because worrying about the ex and what you guys had will do NOTHING to help you. Oh, and lurk/post/check in here, often. It helped me a lot for sure.
Recommended Posts