undergroundlife13 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Id like to hear any stories about it as i can relate. Ive contacted him repeatedly with no response and finally stopped. i would like to hear any stories where you went off the deep end we can get thru this together
aisuru Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Sure... when I was 15, 18, and 20. Since then? Not so much. 2
Feelin Frisky Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Yes. She was crazy. But I only figured that out after two tumultuous years of agony and ecstasy. Breaking away, I made a reckless move which landed me in the belly of the beast--the land of crack vampires and ho's in body socks. 1
Leigh 87 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Yep. Back story so you understand why I was obsessed and psycho: We were everything to each other and we were as close as two people could get to an Unhealthy extent. We were very close. After the break up, he swore he was still in love with me/did not want to just move on/wanted to see what happened with us/ was in no way ready to hook up with other women. Before No Contact he drove half hour just because he wanted to hug me in bed at night. Therefore, I almost fainted and I was in utter shock when I rang his phone, his sister answered (who hates me), and said "uhh.. he is busy" in a way that alluded to him being "busy" with a new women:sick: I lost my dignity. I should have just said "hello. Oh he's busy, okay, thanks. Bye" Instead, after she implied he had a girl around, I almost fainted and my body went into a state of shock. I could not help but ask her " look.. I did everything for your brother for 3 years, I was there for him when he cried about your mothers death. We had a proper relationship and it is hard for me when you imply that he has a girl around in such a nonchalant way." She was cold and nasty, saying "I will not tell you either way if he has a girl around it is non of your business" She is a bitchhh of a person anyways and I never liked her. I am so much better than her and I am a much nicer person than she is. Anyways. He was actually at work and had not hooked up with other people. There you go, that was before No Contact. That was the turning point that showed me that I CANNOT handle ever talking to him again. Even though he says he still loves me and wants to be with me/just not sure when and if we will work out/does not know what'll happen. I will go crazy and psycho over my ex if I EVER reach out to him again. I will find out when he hooks up and go psycho. That is a fact. I hope that incident at least deters others from making a dickk outa themselves. How annoying. I am not embarrassed because I think lowly of his sister and do not care about what she thinks of me. I just lost dignity, which sucks. You live and hopefully learn though. I think my case is what will happen to any woman who contacts their ex, when the break up was amicable and the dude implied he still loved you. Be warned. 3
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 That wasnt too bad and extremely understandable, i think i take the cake so far but thankfully i never showed up at his house, but i thought about it
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Just read the threads here and you will find many, many, many stories of which you seek... No need to make people re-live their 'not so great' moments, right? 4
coltsfan1 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Of course, but it was not worth it. Unfortunately I only found that out after I lost the plot!! In my experience going bananas over an EX is a direct indication of two things, 1 being immaturity, 2 being an unhealthy love. I am guilty of both, many posters here are guilty of it & so is my EX. All we can do is dust ourselves off and move forward!! 2
Simon Phoenix Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Yep, when i was 18 my girlfriend at the time dumped me for being way too clingy and needy. And I lost it. I would go by her dorm room and write love notes on her dry-erase board begging for a second chance. I'd call her room, I'd plead over email and then argue with her when she'd inevitably reject my advances. I made sure to eat dinner in the dorm cafeteria at the exact same time she would. Just stupid crap. I kept this up for a few weeks until I finally realize that she not only dumped me for another guy, but was cheating on me with him. That completely cured me of my ridiculous behavior. All the want and desire I had for her went from 100 to 0 instantly. I realized I had made an ass out of myself and had no desire to pursue a cheater. So I went cold turkey and never initiated contact with her again. Over my next three years of college I'd see her on campus and way after the fact (a year plus or so) I was capable of smiling at her if she smiled first, but I never actually spoke to her again. And I vowed that I would never be the clingy doofus ever again. 3
iouaname Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Yup. Did it with this ex. There were a lot more factors than just "him" but this breakup I've learned quite a bit about my crazy tendencies
aisuru Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 What did you do? Hell child, I ain't givin' you ideas!!! You name it, I did worse. Trust me. Aint' worth it. I promise you that. 2
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 Lol i dont want any ideas trust me!!! I feel ive already done pretty bad
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 I did the crazy text/calling. had my friend call him. called on fake and private numbers lol i almost went to his house but stopped myself
mahon451 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Pfft. Find me one person who HASN'T gone a little crazy over an ex Most of my "breakup crazies" have been internalized- I'm not the type to stalk, blow up someone's phone, send inappropriate gifts, or anything like that, but in my head, it's a different story... you know, the constant obsessing, racing thoughts, fantasies about beating the new guy unmercifully... the whole nine. At the end of the day, though, what I DID was: - Started a workout regimen - Went LC, then NC - Found new activities and hobbies - Threw myself into my jobs - Started spending more time out/with friends It really does help with the craziness. 5
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 Well good for you!!! wish i did that from the beginning
mahon451 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Well good for you!!! wish i did that from the beginning Never too late! You're doing it now, right? 1
CorridorE Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 When I found out my ex had cheated on my for over a year, in a fit of rage I called him over 40, yep 40, times in a row, which he kept canceling without picking up. Finally texted him saying I was in trouble and hurt just so he'd answer. He did, and just I let him have it for close to half and hour, letting out all my anger and literally said everything that came to mind. That was the last real time I've spoken to him post BU. 2
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 Yes i am doing it right now but i believe if i had gone NC in the beginning then we would probably have worked things out..
Simon Phoenix Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Yes i am doing it right now but i believe if i had gone NC in the beginning then we would probably have worked things out.. You don't know that to be true. But yes, you didn't do yourself any favors with your initial approach.
Sneaky Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I did. I wish I came across this forum earlier, then again I wasn’t looking as I kept believing I could fix things. I thought that if I could just talk to her I would be able to change her mind and I kept sending her things about how we should have this big talk for weeks on end; but in the end she would not talk to me beyond telling me to move on. I did not understand what she was doing by going quiet on me and it was driving me crazy so I kept reaching out over and over again. In the end I just looked at what I was doing and felt bad about my actions and myself... and then I found this forum.
frostythesnowman Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Yes i am doing it right now but i believe if i had gone NC in the beginning then we would probably have worked things out.. I know what you mean, and even I find myself thinking this for my situation, but we can't live in the past. For me, my ex broke up with me 2 years ago. 2 whole years of ups and downs because we have kept in contact, and I am finally taking a stand. There have been so many instances where I got fed up with her because I want her so damn bad and she just plays games with me, so I tell her and come off as "crazy" and then two weeks later I come back just like she wanted. Time after time I have cycled through this, and its time for it to stop. Hell, maybe I am a little crazy. We all are when the right emotions and feelings are brought out in us
BC1980 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I did. I wish I came across this forum earlier, then again I wasn’t looking as I kept believing I could fix things. I thought that if I could just talk to her I would be able to change her mind and I kept sending her things about how we should have this big talk for weeks on end; but in the end she would not talk to me beyond telling me to move on. I did the exact same things until I found this forum. I wanted to have discussions and fix things.
bswzzl Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I sent multiple page long letters to her over Facebook, complained to my friends which in turn yelled at her which caused a whole mess of drama. My teacher who knew we were dating who I was very close with asked about the relationship, the ex found out and went ballistic on her in turn. Yes, she went off on a teacher for asking me about why she dumped me. So we both went a little crazy, I'd say.
Emilia Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 In my wilder years yes, nowdays just go boxing. The best therapy there is 1
robaday Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I did the same as Feeling Frisky, well similar, crystal meth, hanging with dealers and transexuals, a few nice drunk and disorderly charges, one admittance to a psychiatric ward....my writing I felt at the time was like a darker bukowski, in fact it was so good i sent 50 pages to my ex of the time, detailing my adventures with prostitutes and criminality....read it recently for first time in years and to be perfectly honest, whoever wrote it is completely fxxxked up! 2
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