SushiX Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 I has a problem and need halp. I have a gf now and she's the most kindest, caring, and unselfish person I have ever met. She also comes from a wealthy family and I would be set for life should I marry this girl. But there's a problem. I can't get myself to love her as I'm in love with someone else. And this other person is poor and I will have to support her, but I'm poor too. What do!? Link to post Share on other sites
neveragain34 Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 Please let both of these women go and spare them your selfishness. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SushiX Posted June 11, 2013 Author Share Posted June 11, 2013 Please let both of these women go and spare them your selfishness. Humans are inherently selfish and so is love. Link to post Share on other sites
Eggplant Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 Do not marry the woman whom you do not love. It's not just that you won't be in love with her, but that you also will never be able to be in love with anybody, as you won't be available any longer. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SushiX Posted June 11, 2013 Author Share Posted June 11, 2013 Do not marry the woman whom you do not love. It's not just that you won't be in love with her, but that you also will never be able to be in love with anybody, as you won't be available any longer. But all love has been temporary for me. Love fades! Link to post Share on other sites
Eggplant Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 But all love has been temporary for me. Love fades! Sorry it's been that way for you. Why do you want to get married at all, then? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SushiX Posted June 11, 2013 Author Share Posted June 11, 2013 Sorry it's been that way for you. Why do you want to get married at all, then? I have been given a ultimatum by both girls!! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 LOVE. Get your own money so that this isn't an issue for you. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 I has a problem and need halp. I have a gf now and she's the most kindest, caring, and unselfish person I have ever met. She also comes from a wealthy family and I would be set for life should I marry this girl. But there's a problem. I can't get myself to love her as I'm in love with someone else. And this other person is poor and I will have to support her, but I'm poor too. What do!? you marry who you love.......money can fade be lost stolen lisplaced....if you have love.....that is a lot harder to lose than pieces of paper........deb Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 I have been given a ultimatum by both girls!! let them both go .....decide what matters to you and what you really want out of life.... and then later on when you truly know what you want out of life....ask the one you really do love....if they still feel the same....deb Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 (edited) I was once in similar shoes in that I had a long term relationship with a gal was not yet 30 and was already worth several million. Daddy was in the hundreds. We met when she was still 28, and had never had a serious BF, as she was mensa intelligent, and was more into pursing a life of the intellect than having a husband and family. How many women do you know who have a subscription to Scientific American, etc. That all changed when she met me, and her parents, desperate for more grand babies, began to make us offers. Such had we married for a wedding gift they would have put down a quarter of a million on a house of our choice near them. I have always been one who likes to keep up with all the latest scientific findings. Her being the super intellect and having a minor degree in math, was able to decipher and get down to my level so that I could understand some of the latest theories in astronomy, particle physics. Me, I was into history, archeology, paleontology, and many a weekend we spent sharing what each one of us knew, learning from each other. In that sense I had never known any one like her and I did love her , but it was her family wealth that scared me. With them putting down that much money for a house, who was going to have the greater say in the household. Me or her family. I had already been through one divorce, and thankfully no kids, and at that time I still kind of wanted to have kids. But then thinking down the road like in 10 years, what if she pulled the same putooey as my Ex. Financially I would be totally out gunned, and more than likely would have lost my say so in the raising of our kids. Her last offer of all expenses paid scuba diving trip to Tahiti had me wanting to go as I knew I would never have that chance again. I came so close to saying yes it scared me so much that I got out of Dodge and moved a thousand miles back to my home town. There I met a divorced mother of two, who was working for minimum wage in a convenience store. We have now been together for almost 2 decades, and I couldn't find a better partner to share my life with. Follow your heart! We only get one ride on the merry-go-round. Edited June 11, 2013 by 2.50 a gallon Link to post Share on other sites
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